I’m not in love with the legend!
I was all gung-ho that the Carr Brothers did the deed, because that’s what history said. I was outraged that someone, anyone, would try and impugn the man’s character!
Then I read Fawn Browdie’s research in American Heritage and studied some of the original source documents. And then I also got older. I’m not outraged that the man slept with his white slave.
It is what it is. It’s just a part of history. Nothing more, nothing less.
Well, then, practice objectivity rather than being so doggedly insistent that one and only one possibility could be the truth. Learn to preface such statements qualifying it as opinion, or that you suspect it to be true. Don’t just plow into it claiming truth when the truth has not been adequately demonstrated. Take up genealogy, go try to submit a shaky line to the DAR and see how far it gets you. Then, maybe, you’ll understand the errors you’re making here.