I understand your argument. But I’m jaded and think some middle aged men and women are not suitable for marriage. More women than men fall into that category. Women who have cheated on the their first husband or divorced him because she “fell out of love” would qualify as women men should avoid. Women who have had one boyfriend after another for 15 to 20 years would also qualify. Too much baggage. Marriage is an institution that holds a gun to a man’s head when a divorce petition is filed. It only makes sense men need to be very choosy....just my way of looking at dating for older men/women.
As for your comment about a woman might be wrong for one man and right for another, if you read above, I’m saying there are some women that are not right for any man.
If all a man wants is marriage, sure he can find someone. But in my opinion it becomes a question of compromise. How much do you compromise on your ideal woman to not be alone anymore? And if you decide to remain choosy, you can’t always say there is a woman for every man.
Been in that situation and heard people say “I’m not perfect” or “I have my own issues” too. As if to say, suck it up and date an overweight single mom. I chose to do an end run around the system and found a woman abroad who is significantly better than a woman than I could have snagged here. The amount of compromising I had to do was exactly zero. Just a thought for you single guys who are divorced and considering your options.
I understand your argument; but my point was that any man can find a good woman PRECISELY by being “choosy’; but ‘choosy’ in the sense of his own attitudes, expectations, and beliefs.
We all ‘decide’ what’s going to happen to us, by how we think and by how our own thinking causes us to approach life.
It’s a matter of deciding what you want and *Believing* in it as a possibility; and not letting negative attitudes or previous failures/disappointments affect your expectations and anticipations of the future.
I’m glad that you are happy.