>>>I haven’t seen quite the adamant negativity from women here, as I’ve seen from some men.
As for your ‘experience’: you can’t change the past, but you can change your mind at any moment. Until you do, and believe in the possibility, you will never be able to find a woman who can be to you what you may want. You’ve decided that it doesn’t exist out there, and it’s so, for you.
The venom coming off of some of you guys is so strong I’m sure I’d sense it if I simply passed you as a stranger on the street...<<<
Take a guy like BizBroker who had a bad/terrible experience with a woman. He’s now older and wiser. BizBroker has taken the red pill and now claims he sees women for who they truly are and not for how men would prefer women to be.
Now that he’s older most quality women are married off. There are millions of guys like BizBroker competing for women too. Unfortunately women do the leaving in marriage at a rate of 70% to 30%. And of those 70% of marriages initiated by the woman, 60% are done by this term I read in a study, “unprovoked.” In short there are way more single middle aged divorcees out there that are the primary cause of a past divorce than such women who did not actively destroy their past marriage.
Once you’ve take the red pill, you will not entertain the thought of settling down with a woman who divorced her previous husband for some frivolous reason. Therefore, there are too many regular guys who came home to a wife who gave him, the “I’m not in love with you anymore” and/or “I found somebody else” speech than there are women who have had that happen to them.
There aren’t enough safe women for middle aged guys to all find somebody to marry. Maybe BizBroker can find a good woman. But imho that’s a zero sum game. If he finds one, another man will be shut out. And even if he thinks he found a “good” woman, he’s still taking a chance he won’t get divorced raped, as all marriage is now a contract with the state.
Maybe the hostility you sense is understandable. I have experienced that speech above. It’s quite maddening when you start to think about it. So many women have these goals when they start the divorce process. 1) Get rid of the first husband. 2) Keep the house, furniture and take half of the rest. 3) Get as much money as possible from the ex each month. 4) Marry the guy I’m having an affair with.
The first husband could realistically find himself downsized while another man moves into his house, sleeps with his ex-wife and the first husband sees his children less often than the new husband.
While the first husband is free to find another wife, it will be complicated by the fact that he lost a lot of his assets and will be paying child support.
I think it’s understandable for men’s behavior to be outright hostile towards the opposite sex when they’ve been burned. I’m not saying it’s healthy or even right. I’m just saying it’s understandable.
I think it’s understandable too; but for most people it’s not productive of happiness. Everyone has bad experiences in every area of life; the ones who dump the chip on the shoulder and go out and try again often wind up content, while others stew in their unhappy juice.
I don’t believe that anything in life is a ‘zero sum’ game. This notion that we are all somehow in competition with one another for everything is one of the main things making the world miserable.
And I honestly don’t see a whole lot of difference between this and any other blaming of society or ‘others’ for failure or disappointment.
(Historically, there were a lot of Black people who made fortunes and achieved happiness, despite the fact that White society did everything it could to block them from achievement. If they had said, “there’s no hope, there’s no use, it’s all stacked against me” they would never have achieved. This is true in every aspect of life, and too many people place judgment before faith when they’ve had a bad experience and fear another.)
If he or she wants, a person can turn away from what seems to be, and just go after what they want with a positive attitude. Those people will do better and be happier than the ones who persist in believing so profoundly in the power and immutability of ‘circumstances’.