Posted on 05/14/2017 1:33:01 PM PDT by SamAdams76
They just don't.
In my high school years, I was Richie Cunningham. The earnest young boy from "Happy Days" who always was looking to please others, especially the adults in his life.
As a result, we were walked all over, taken advantage of and subsequently, not dated by girls.
Now Richie Cunningham might have had a girlfriend or two during the fictitious "Happy Days" run but in my real-life Richie Cunningham phase, I had zero girlfriends. I did have several dates that went disastrously wrong because I thought dating was all about being a nice guy. It wasn't.
During that phase, my date would go something like this: I would drive to the girl's house in my dad's '76 baby-blue Chrysler Newport and do the obligatory meeting with the girl's dad. I'd talk about my college plans, maybe the military. I'd tell him about my job at the supermarket bagging groceries and shagging carts and assuring him that the movie I was taking his daughter to was PG rated. I could almost see the dad subconsciously tagging me as a loser and telling me to just bring his daughter home "at a reasonable hour."
Then once I got the girl in the car, I would ask her what she wanted to do. She'd look at me like I had three heads and reply, shrugging, that she would do whatever I wanted to do. So we'd end up seeing some PG rated movie that sucked (think "Kramer vs Kramer" or "Jazz Singer" with Neil Diamond) and would have an awkward nightcap at some Denny's or Friendly's over some grilled cheese and a milkshake. During all this, I'd try to work up conversation but saying I was all in with "women's lib" and that I think that women are better than men in just about every way. I'd ask her about her favorite band and that band just happened to be my favorite band too. Even if it was Abba or the Bee Gees. Then I'd talk about my baseball card collection or how I like to walk along the beach at low tide and toss clams back into the ocean so that they don't die. Once the night was over, she'd shake my hand and tell me that she had a good time and we should do this again sometime. Except she'd never call me, would avoid me in the high school hallway and would never return my calls.
In my Richie Cunningham phase, I never even got to first base. Either it was a total strikeout or a foul pop up out.
It was then that I realized that girls don't like nice boys. I had just joined the Marine Corps and was about to go into boot camp so I had nothing to lose. Just after graduation, I asked a girl on a date and decided to be a total jerk. I refused to meet with her father and insisted she just come to the car. I took her to see "The Shining" with Jack Nicholson starring. She loved it. We went to a real restaurant afterwards and I ordered her meal plus a seven & seven for both of us even though we were not old enough to drink yet. She loved it.
We spent the next two hours necking at the beach before I took her home, well after midnight. She started ringing me up the morning afterwards asking if we could go out again. I didn't return her call for two days. Finally I called and she answered on the very first ring. This was way before cell phones so she was basically sitting at home waiting for me to call.
I was Richie Cunningham no more.
So what made you spill your guts today?
I can’t tell if you’re complaining or bragging! :-)
Why, little Opie Cunningham, you sly dog!
Cause his life was ruined by marrying one of those girls like the last one instead of waiting for the rare girl who was his female counterpart.
You know, the self assured girl who’s tends toward modesty and interests beyond yhe MTV crowd.
What’s wrong with the 2nd date? You bought her a meal and some decent booze and went to a popular movie. You just went from Richie to Fonzie without ever achieving Eddie Haskell. Sounds good to me.
Girls are attracted toward a guy whose personality is similar to their father with whom they have unresolved conflict....
Sad but true....
And here I thought they just wanted ‘the next best thing’...
With all of the online dating sites.. Match and others... it’s a meat market out there.
Girls like nice guys but they like them edgy, with a sense of direction and a take charge attitude. It has to do with a primal need in women to be protected along with any children that come along. A guy can be nice and moral but at the same time say..I have dreams of going to the moon and I want ya with me!
I agree. As soon as I discovered girls, someone told me to act like there’s always another girl you’re looking at. Then the girl you like has to fight for you. By the time I met my wife I had 6 ladies that I was casually having fun with. I ten dumped them all and never looked back.
Did you marry her ?
Sounds like the typical nerd to me.
I was a “bad boy” and trust me, we didn’t too very well either. The parents wouldn’t let their daughters date us. We PRETENDED we were doin a lot better than we were. Just like we were pretending to be a lot “badder” than we really were.
Girls don’t like good boys. Women, however, do.
Funny you mentioned that. The “girls” (not women) who didn’t see the value in a more mature, conscientious, caring person would eventual be looking for exactly that 10 years later, that is if she had even half a brain in her head at that point. From my observation over the past +40 years of adulthood, a lot don’t and a lot never grow up (mature). So, we have 50% divorce rates, shacking up more than ever, out of control abortions, illegitimate children by the bushel full and lastly, STD’s that help contribute to sterility and some now becoming incurable. So much for “bad boys” and “bad girls” behavior as knowing what the other really wants. It’s called rutting in the animal world. Ideally, we’re supposed to be above that. However, some of society’s ills are reflected in this kind of poor judgment and immaturity, there’s plenty of others too. We’re practically scraping bottom, or will soon.
Women have this problem with rational thought.
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