Posted on 05/14/2017 1:33:01 PM PDT by SamAdams76
They just don't.
In my high school years, I was Richie Cunningham. The earnest young boy from "Happy Days" who always was looking to please others, especially the adults in his life.
As a result, we were walked all over, taken advantage of and subsequently, not dated by girls.
Now Richie Cunningham might have had a girlfriend or two during the fictitious "Happy Days" run but in my real-life Richie Cunningham phase, I had zero girlfriends. I did have several dates that went disastrously wrong because I thought dating was all about being a nice guy. It wasn't.
During that phase, my date would go something like this: I would drive to the girl's house in my dad's '76 baby-blue Chrysler Newport and do the obligatory meeting with the girl's dad. I'd talk about my college plans, maybe the military. I'd tell him about my job at the supermarket bagging groceries and shagging carts and assuring him that the movie I was taking his daughter to was PG rated. I could almost see the dad subconsciously tagging me as a loser and telling me to just bring his daughter home "at a reasonable hour."
Then once I got the girl in the car, I would ask her what she wanted to do. She'd look at me like I had three heads and reply, shrugging, that she would do whatever I wanted to do. So we'd end up seeing some PG rated movie that sucked (think "Kramer vs Kramer" or "Jazz Singer" with Neil Diamond) and would have an awkward nightcap at some Denny's or Friendly's over some grilled cheese and a milkshake. During all this, I'd try to work up conversation but saying I was all in with "women's lib" and that I think that women are better than men in just about every way. I'd ask her about her favorite band and that band just happened to be my favorite band too. Even if it was Abba or the Bee Gees. Then I'd talk about my baseball card collection or how I like to walk along the beach at low tide and toss clams back into the ocean so that they don't die. Once the night was over, she'd shake my hand and tell me that she had a good time and we should do this again sometime. Except she'd never call me, would avoid me in the high school hallway and would never return my calls.
In my Richie Cunningham phase, I never even got to first base. Either it was a total strikeout or a foul pop up out.
It was then that I realized that girls don't like nice boys. I had just joined the Marine Corps and was about to go into boot camp so I had nothing to lose. Just after graduation, I asked a girl on a date and decided to be a total jerk. I refused to meet with her father and insisted she just come to the car. I took her to see "The Shining" with Jack Nicholson starring. She loved it. We went to a real restaurant afterwards and I ordered her meal plus a seven & seven for both of us even though we were not old enough to drink yet. She loved it.
We spent the next two hours necking at the beach before I took her home, well after midnight. She started ringing me up the morning afterwards asking if we could go out again. I didn't return her call for two days. Finally I called and she answered on the very first ring. This was way before cell phones so she was basically sitting at home waiting for me to call.
I was Richie Cunningham no more.
.. you never see a motorcycle parked in front of a psychologist’s office.
Sadly, there is much truth in your post. I’ve been married to the same woman for over 30 years and decided if anything happens to the missus, I will officially retire from the War of the Sexes.
Clearly, the rules have fundamentally changed since I was “on the market” back in the 70s and early 80s. The entitlement culture is stunning; one reason that many younger women prefer older men is they can provide the lifestyle they’re looking for—and are less likely to want kids. And better yet, that Sugar Daddy who’s 20-25 years older is likely to take that celestial dirt nap when they’re young enough to inherit the estate (or a good chunk of it), and still young enough to find that next bank account with lots of zeros behind it.
And that’s just for starters. God help any man who tries to build a relationship with a latter-day feminist. At the other end of the spectrum, good luck in the hook up culture. There’s a reason the highest STD rate in the state of Florida is at The Villages retirement community.
It’s also true that many younger and men in early middle age have simply stopped looking. They can’t meet the financial “requirements” of the women they want to date and living in their parents’ basement, their prospects for getting ahead are decidedly dim (should have thought twice about that degree in cultural studies versus something with actual market and employment value).
So, a lot of men simply turn to porn on their mobile devices, and look for ways to stay out of the job market—and the dating scene. If they can’t move in permanently with mom and dad, they file for an SSI check and other welfare benefits. It’s no secret that the ranks of the nation’s disabled swelled dramatically under Zero, and many of those were able-bodied men.
Meanwhile, the birth rate in immigrant communities is far above GDP, and that means our future middle class will be largely Hispanic and Muslim, so the America of 2040-2050 will look a lot like British cities of today.
My plans for a retirement mountain top in the Ozarks or the Smoky Mountains is looking better and better all the time.
#15 George is Tough
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rgHZaujVa4
During college, I dated a very attractive woman from a well-to-do family. We got along great.
Then, one day she said we should break up. She wanted enjoy her college “wild years”.
She explained to me that I was “the Perfect Second Husband”.
Then she explained that women want to have a Vegas wedding to a surfer boy, live in a shack, stay drunk and have sex all the time. After two years of that, they will have enough stories and fantasies for a lifetime.
Then, they will divorce the surfer boy and come looking for someone like me (Eagle Scout, engineer, MBA, good job, nice stable family with a pleasant mother, etc.).
So, for eight years I was a Second-Husband-in-Waiting. I met a lovely nurse who had experienced a few surfer boys (not marrying them), and wanted someone like me.
That was 32 years and two kids ago.
LOL!
Hypergamy....
Time to read Rollo Tomassi.
However, the way I was raised, I was the kind of guy all the girls wanted to MARRY. Before meeting my wife, I dated all kinds of women who looked at me as MATING material. The skanky, tramp-stamped ho NEVER looked my way....now I see that as a blessing.
Watch out for Nashville-Istan
Hybristophilia. Sadly, it is a common trait among females.
>>>“I very much think there’s a biological reason for girls liking “bad boys” “
They want to be single moms?<<<
And I thought being a slut was the reason for being a single mom. I sure do learn a lot on FR
So true. 43 years and I have channeled my father-in-law with only a few of exceptions.
Women want alpha males, men who are take charge and decisive.
We don’t want all the decision making weight thrown on our shoulders.
When men act like that, women feel safe and protected, something women really want.
True.
Seeing as how the word *nice* these days tends to make one think of weak, I'd say a girl wants a man who is kind.
An alpha male who shows a little kindness and tenderness, will have any girl he wants.
A guy can be nice and moral but at the same time say..I have dreams of going to the moon and I want ya with me!
Yup, that works.
Did you ever read *Wild at Heart* by John Eldredge? He discusses that exact thing.
If you don't have any pretense, you will find a girl who doesn't either. They will be attracted to someone without any pretense either.
That level of self-confidence screams *alpha male* and WILL attract girls.
Females are attracted to men who come across as strong.
The idea that women want *bad* boys, is wrong. They don't want the bad. They want the alpha.
The problem is, there's going to be a very high percent of alpha in the bad.
I dated a very nice one, who I then married :)
I teach workshops on relationships. I refer to the soul’s attraction toward individual’s whose personality is similar to someone with whom we have unresolved conflict as “Law of Attraction #1.”
I work with women who get into violent physically abusive relationships, one after another. I don’t even discuss their current relationship, but merely read their soul field until I locate the perceptual programming event, usually in early childhood, that created the psychological wound, and then heal it. This only takes a few minutes. When the original wound is healed, all subsequent relationship wounds of a similar nature happening during their lifetime just drop away like dominoes. They usually contact me within a few days that their current relationship is over, even though we never discussed it. You don’t need a surrogate to resolve an issue that is already resolved. The attraction is gone. this is what creates the “Chemistry of Love.”
It really is a simple process. Often the wound is from the mother’s experience while she was pregnant with the person I am working with. A child in the womb can not differentiate between their own experiences and those of their mother. The memories go all the way back to conception. The child can now be 70 years old and they still carry around the original memory from the perception of the baby in the womb.
In a side note.. I have worked with quite a few lesbians. In over 50% of the cases, the mother was angry at the father while she was pregnant with my client.
Sexual preference or gender identity is merely a function of which aspect of consciousness is dominant in the soul field around the physical body. The field goes out about 15 feet (at a minimum) in all directions. For some reason, people’s stored memories of events in their lifetime (which are stored in reverse sequence in this field) are physical objects to my perceptions.
If you have eve heard a person say, “My life flashed before my eyes.” That is merely their consciousness expanding outward through the same field I read. It’s the life review process when a person dies.
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