Posted on 04/26/2017 6:18:53 AM PDT by BJ1
Fast forward to my 38th birthday. I was still single, and the world of dating had changed significantly in the last eight years. Tinder and Bumble, the dominant dating apps, offered countless options for single men and women, but made the experience of dating entirely impersonal.
Dating amounted to small talk with a stranger, who you had briefly interfaced with online because you each thought the other attractive. The small talk was a prelude to hooking up, and there were no expectations even of a text the next day.
It was brutal. And after trying my hand at it, I was no closer to finding the love of my life or starting a family. If I needed statistics to back me up, I had them. In 2014, marriage was on the decline, as was the fertility rate in the United States.
I had one real option left -- and that was to attempt to get pregnant alone.
(Excerpt) Read more at cnn.com ...
I recommend this 2-minute video, which was censored by the government --- literally banned from broadcast distribution--- in France.
That's a fundamental truth that too many people forget or can't comprehend. The common denominator in all "your" failed relationships is "you".
So, if a woman could be impregnated at age 55, that’s all good?
Is there actually a drop off you’d consider?
57? 60?
Pick a number.
The ones most likely to get "cut off", in my experience, were the "nice guys". They weren't exciting. The wives of the utter bastards know they won't put up with a sexless marriage.
LOL!
I have to agree with you this time ... that was a bit much.
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Wow...why would he have to be lassoed into something that showed such respect for him as a person?
When you take a car to the shop, the shop has to disclose the costs and the result...full disclosure. In your example, I'd say it was more like cattle being led to slaughter.
Oy!
Good point. Not to get too graphic, but I have learned to get down in there, and provide delight for her, even before we move on to “the main event”........
Single Moms are selfish (and no widows aren’t single moms).
I would say going to Stanford and working under Rice might have left her with inaccurate perceptions of the way life works. Seriously that would be two real strikes against her to start with. Both of those situations cater to people who think they are the upper echelon. Using those things to define herself suggests “its all about me.”
Is the man supposed to have brighter plumage than that to be worthy, if so will he be just as self centered? The qualities that make a good husband are not defined in terms of which school, which clerkship etc. I think this woman was looking at the symptoms not the problem.
A child is not a prescription for a cure for loneliness and lack of fulfillment. Once that child is born its all about the child not about the parent. Maybe that will be a good transition for this woman and she will find a man with a child/children to make a family and with her new perceptions she will recognize his worth.
Don't go there unless you are prepared to arrive at the destination.
Before birth control, women gave birth until menopause. Now it’s unusual but nothing unnatural about it.
It's really getting fun now that the grandson is old enough to accompany Opa on his road trips. The boys and I trekked to Nashville last December for the Gonzaga-Tennessee basketball game.
Several years ago, my then 11 YO son and I took two weeks to drive to Las Vegas, which included stops at Monument Valley, Zion & Bryce Canyon. A highlight for me was a day of canyoneering in Water Canyon.
I would recommend that the woman take up viticulture as a hobby. Visiting wineries has become a passion for me, and it's a great way to meet people in a casual environment. There is so much to learn, there's never a lack of topics for breaking the ice.
Four years of living near the Mosel River gave me an incredible amount of confidence to talk to women. Knowing the right wine to pair with dinner set me apart from the competition. Plus, I was able to bring the wine to life by talking about the region it came from, and places that I visited while in those areas.
There is a quid pro quo element to your view of marriage that I would not be comfortable with. I am glad you have found your soul mate.
TMI
“The end of the article sheds light that she had dated many men in her past who had rejected her. She pretty much came to conclusion that she’s unlovable by a man...”
She probably could be loved, but that would require some introspection and self-improvement on her part, which she isn’t interested in. She won’t change, and the world won’t change to accommodate her, so she’s just going to continue on her own selfish course.
It's all true. Not flattering, perhaps, but all true.
The system has been stacked against men to the degree the only choice available is "no."
“I blame the men more — too many are taking sex without responsibility and take the easier option rather than marrying and supporting a family.”
Oh sure, blame men for the results of feminism. Because we totally instigated that whole thing.
They may have instigated it, but there was a reason. Again, (I have made this point about three other times in this thread) -- it's not who you and I blame. It's who God blames that matters.
All she would need to do is hang out in front of Planned Parenthood with a hand written “Will take your Baby for Food before you kill it” sign.
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