Morgana, you’ve made a lot of assumptions for which you have no evidence.
This is rash judgment and it makes further back-and-forth rather a wasted effort.
I do feel sorry for the little girl, because the mother did not make use of the reasonable accommodation offered to her, that she could have recruited any male neighbor, relative or friend as her daughter’s dance partner.
I feel sorry for the little girl because her mom could not pick the right dick to get pregnant by in the first place.
Then on top of that she does not do as you say, get a grandfather, uncle or other male relative! NO it has to be “all about her”, look at me I’m mommy and daddy. No she’s not a daddy.
Now she wants to ruin it for all other little girls who’s mommies did pick the right dick and do have daddies. This is why the child is being teased by other children. They know what is going on.
I just wonder if she had supportive people she could have called on. If she was truly a slut as she’s been called here she could just have her latest man go for her. From the taunts of the other kids it sounds like there was not a boyfriend around. If this mom didn’t have a church and mostly stayed to herself there may not have been someone to ask.
We don’t know her situation. She could have a very lonely existence with few options. Or not. We don’t know. This is why listening is so important.
It would be good for us all to open our eyes and see the single moms who might be lonely and in need of friendship.
I think an elementary school trying to do a dance for 6-year-olds is probably the beginning of the problem.
And then trying to explicitly define the parental roles seems obsessive to me. Does anybody really care which parent “dances” with the 6-year-old? Is it the job of the school to force a single parent to pick some other person to perform parental duties?
It’s like they were searching for problems. Seriously, are the male parents going to be upset that a mother showed up with her kid because she didn’t have a father?
And i think it’s great that the mother tried to be a “father”.
Note that they also ran a dance for “mother/son”. Now, I think it is fine that they have separate dances for the boys and girls, but it makes no sense to limit the parents, especially when they are specifically limiting them to the opposite sex parent.
Note that nobody is thinking there is anything “sexual” about this dance. But by forcing the opposite-sex parent rule, they are kind of implying it is, that some how even at age 6, and dancing with their parents, the child needs to be paired with someone of the opposite sex.
Further, in the grand scheme of “things done wrong”, acting as a single mother isn’t the worst. Sure, get married before having sex, then you have two biological parents. Get an opposite-sex person involved if you can’t have a husband/wife for some reason. But I’m torn as to whether a child is better with one biological parent, or two non-biological parents.
The biological connection is strong, and provides a security you just can’t get from an adopted situation, as good as it is to adopt, and as great as some adopted parents are. There’s a reason for the “drama” of “when do we tell the kid they are adopted”.
And you know what — men suck. Many men anyway. It’s hard for a single mother with a small child to get a man to look past the child, too many men can’t or won’t deal with another guy’s child, or just want a woman who can baby them and don’t like the woman having other obligations.