Posted on 09/20/2016 4:31:41 AM PDT by C19fan
Within minutes of meeting my Bumble date at a bike race, he demanded that I take off my sunglasses so he could see my eyes. I obliged. In the two hours we were together, he proceeded to put his hand firmly on my butt, pretending to usher me through a crowd. He also did not ask before reaching over to rub my shoulders, as though he had a right to touch my body.
As a feminist writer, I understand that these behaviors denote male entitlement and indicate that he might not respect women. And yet, I was turned on. I have always been attracted to dominant men.
(Excerpt) Read more at washingtonpost.com ...
I, too, have that impression. If it's all true, then we have: a divorced mother of two children, probably in her late 20s, who has, over the last two years, been involved with a number of older men she found on the Internet. At least several of these men have become sufficiently involved in her life to fix her computer and stuff like that.
Some of the men, like the "lead" male, are single or divorced parents themselves. It can be reasonably assumed that she's hooked up with some or all of them. She is repeatedly exposing herself to disease, unmarried pregnancy, and relationship abuse. She is exposing her children to abuse, as well as the experience of family chaos. She and the men are giving her/his children an example of narcissistic self-seeking, rather than stable maturity.
In summary, the nicest thing we could believe about this author is that she's making it all up.
Saw the title.
Saw that it was in the Washington Post.
Figured the author was a dude.
“Shannon Lell is a writer and editor living in Seattle with her two children.”
I have a lot of baggage. How much do I unload on a first date?
By Shannon Lell, March 23
Per her article:
I keep a little notebook full of men’s names. I started it two years ago, not long after my then-husband was court-ordered out of our house. At the moment there are 48 names. Next to their names are pithy reminders of who they are, what we did on our first date and my first impressions of them.
Patrick: Dinner @ Pearl, married 18 years, wife cheated, two kids, jaded, but still believes in love.
Rich: Raised Mormon, recovering alcoholic, bitter but working on it. Humble.
Mike: Sweet guy, walked the marina listening to Elton John from a party boat, sad over losing a job he loved, doesn’t know what to do next. Studying to teach English in China. I hope he does.
Seventy percent of these dates didn’t make it past the first meeting. A handful of them, a little more than that. A tiny fraction, more than that. Only one was a serious relationship that lasted several months. Their contacts in my phone are like a digital graveyard, proof that we connected once but now just a memory.
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“Blogging Through Divorce” by SHANNON LELL
Shannon Lell spent 10 years in corporate America before being thrown from the ladder. She is now a writer and editor living near Seattle, Washington, with her two small children. About her blog, Lell says, “Introspection and over-thinking everything is my special super power. I believe that when we are our authentic selves, we give others the unspoken permission to be the same. In truth, there is freedom and that’s how I write about everything — including divorce.”
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The 50/50 Life Of Divorce by SHANNON LELL
As I gave my ID to the guy guarding the gate to the beer garden, I thought how lucky I was to be entering into that kid-free sanctuary. ......
Truth was, I was grateful to be there sans kids. I donned a pretty, delicate dress and fixed my hair and makeup to the point that I felt pretty. I wanted to carefully analyze the menus and shuffle through the screen-print t-shirts without someone demanding something of me halfway through each process, and then having to cut everything short because someone was tired or had to pee. Sitting inside that tranquil beer garden, where no one was shouting and running around, I commented to two friends how this event was so much better without children. Because I’d attended plenty of street festivals with children, and because I’m a mom, I was thinking about my children.
They were with their dad at some beach house in Oregon where they’ve regularly been the past year-and-a-half. I’ve never been there, I don’t even know who owns it or who was staying with them or even that they were going until they were already gone. When they are with their father, their life is foreign to me because their father would rather I not exist and so he pretends that I do not.
Just recently, we transitioned to a 50/50 parenting schedule. It is one designed for “high conflict” families which limits the interaction between parents to protect the children from ongoing hostilities. A plan ordered by a judge who listened to 4 days worth of the dissection of our 8-and-a-half-year marriage. With this new plan, every other week I don’t see my kids for 5 days…5 whole days. I barely get to talk to them, either. I’ve had to fight tooth and nail just to get two short phone calls during those 5 days, and normally, he only allows one.
Basically, this chick is saying feminists need to be slapped.
Only affirms that these folks have a screw loose.
“Shannon Lell spent 10 years in corporate America before being thrown from the ladder.”
No bitterness here... sarc
LOL!
The author is supposed to live in Seattle. Although the author claims to be female, and a photo shows a moderately pretty, rather plump woman with no taste in clothes ... it could nonetheless still be a dude.
After all, the coming Cthulhu presidency is being heralded by a worldwide wave of madness - especially in Seattle, because Cthulhu rises from the sea.
"My story goes like this: I’m from the Midwest. I moved to Seattle 11 years ago because of my husband. We’ve been separated for two years, officially divorced for one. No, it was not good; it was abusive. We don’t talk, but things are finally calm. There was a trial; it was really bad. We have two children — a boy and a girl. I have them 50 percent of the time. I’m a writer and editor. I used to be in medical sales. No, it was not my choice to leave. I sued the company for sexual harassment, and it was a dramatic case that unfurled over a year. Yes, I’ve been involved in two legal cases in the past six years. In both of them, I was called “crazy,” but don’t worry, I’m not. I have papers to prove it! Ha ha. I went back to school, started a new career. I’m writing two books. I work from home. I’ve got a good life."
Quote....”No, it was not my choice to leave. I sued the company for sexual harassment, and it was a dramatic case that unfurled over a year. Yes, I’ve been involved in two legal cases in the past six years. In both of them, I was called “crazy,”
She belongs with the Washington Post
That whole “fat acceptance” crap is designed for overweight women in their 30s-40s to think they are a sex symbol.
Like what dude, other than some desperate trailer trash, will find THAT to be a catch?
And people wonder why marriage rates are falling?
Quote... from her story...
“Of course, when you go on close to 50 first dates over two years, you meet a few who judge you for your story. I am aware of how my story sounds: It signals drama and instability, perhaps more so than others’ stories. But what matters is the way I tell it, as if I am standing at safe distance, with a 10,000-foot view above where an A-bomb exploded decades ago, looking nonchalantly over my shoulder at the wreckage of the past while being upbeat about the future.
Of my 50 first dates, the one man who became a boyfriend once told me: “The only time I see who you are is when you’re with your kids. It’s the only time you’re vulnerable.”
So I stopped talking a whole lot about my children on these dates. This may sound cold, considering what a big part of my life they are, but he was right: They are my weakness and sometimes when I talk about them, my eyes water involuntarily.
Looks like there’s plenty of butt there to put a hand on.
I wouldn’t touch this woman with a 10 foot pole.
Not even somebody else’s 10 foot pole.
I actually read the article. She’s a feminazi drama queen with lots of baggage, and not very bright.
My God....I have NEVER read so many comments from right-wing cucks and manginas in my life!
And people here bitch about 3rd wave feminism, and think they played no part in its creation?!
All of those simps saying that no women should date a man who doesn’t have the “right” financial smarts ....and not one even considering HER financial literacy. Female entitlement hiding behind bible verses and “traditionalism”.
She is a serial dater who thinks she understands men. She is in reality a mess.
The Loneliness of Post Divorce
April 2, 2014 by Shannon Lell 11 Comments
“I’m adrift right now, and I know it. It’s been almost three months since I filed for divorce and the loneliness has begun to wrap around me like a wet, dense fog.”
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This was actually a pretty good article... She was writing from a very vulnerable perspective and her anger did not reflect in her writing.
I wonder if she gets signed releases from her dates to write about them in her columns? What guy in his right mind would date a woman who writes the details of her dates in news columns?
She has found a way to legally write off the cost of all her dates as a business expense... “Research Expenditures” necessary in her profession.
I suspect that the man’s hand was poised at the bottom of her back, as opposed to on her posterior, but perhaps she is being completely accurate, too. There are only a few inches between suggestively forward and sexually aggressive positioning in this area.
The shoulder rub is much more subjective. The urge/desire to touch a person is a natural way to convey affection, but must be balanced by the choice of area to touch, the stage of the relationship the pair are in, and the situation.
Overall, this woman simply confirms that many women swoon for “bad boys”.
That’s how we’re made, b!tch! can’t deny human nature!
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