My son’s girlfriend described to a T.
He won’t see it, and I’m forced to pretend I don’t see it.
I married someone who was that way (abused child) but he left me soon afterwards because I was not obedient and he found a more malleable target. I had figured out my mistake by then, had little pain, and was given a wonderful son.
My son was soon going to be deployed and was involved with an unstable girl. I had my brother talk to him about being involved during deployment because coming from him and not a meddling mom made a big difference. He is now married to a wonderful woman.