My parents were both Baltimoreans, born & raised. My mother made crab cakes, but she was a ‘cook by feel’ sort & never wrote down the recipe. Learned that from her mother. Crab cakes are certainly a delicacy! Now that I’m here on the left coast we sometimes get Dungeness crabs, but usually eat them plain. Yum! In fact, my mother got a couple from our local grocer & complained most bitterly that they’d cleaned them & removed ‘the mustard’.
LOL! Do you mean Tomalley, the crab version of ‘hepatopancreas’?
I’ve never been concerned with it; Unless a part looks especially disgusting, I just eat the whole thing.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tomalley
-JT