You could make it easier by just being what Jesus wants you to be.
Which, yes, would also if possible mean to show your shining face at a church congregation. But from a different perspective. He didn’t nominate the church to judge you, nor you to judge the church, except inasmuch as opportunities are legitimately found to edify. The attitude shouldn’t be gotcha, but how can I help.
While I do sometimes miss the regular weekly fellowship, I've learned over and over that I'm better on my own.
I struggle with "obedience to God" too much to waste time with trying to obey some of the self-righteous jackasses in pulpits I've met or their equally judgmental congregations.
Maybe I've picked bad churches to attend; maybe I've just got a stubborn streak a mile wide. Either way, I'm fine with life as it is. And I'm confident the Lord will take me in the end.