Posted on 01/02/2016 7:55:14 AM PST by reaganaut1
My sister has been dating her boyfriend for two years. They live together and seem mostly happy. And I am happy for them, except for one thing: I am about 99 percent sure he is gay. Now, I have no problem with homosexuality, but you can understand my concern. Also, I am not the only one who thinks this. Several male friends have told me that he has tried to kiss other men or grab their crotches. I would like to bring this up with my sister. How should I do it?
Michelle, New York
Request denied! Before you say anything hurtful to your sister, let's take a peek at some of the (homophobic-adjacent) assumptions that you've made on your (probably well-intentioned) road to judgment. Your 99 percent certainty rests on unknown evidence. (Spare me your gaydar.) But I am willing to bet that much of it involves silly stereotypes about masculinity. Is the boyfriend effeminate? Does he follow fashion or musical theater? News flash: He can still be straight.
More problematic is the "gay panic" of your male friends, whose gossipy stories may rely on secondhand reports from still other men. Not so reliable. What's more, I don't buy it. Gay men and lesbians have long been, and often still are, a persecuted minority. (Have you seen the excellent film "Carol" yet?) The idea that a gay man could blithely and repeatedly "grab the crotches" of his straight cohorts is absurd. There would be consequences.
But even if all these allegations are true, who are we to substitute our judgment for your sister's? You say she is happy with this man after living with him for two years, plenty of time to decide for herself whether she is. Every relationship is different; some are more sexual than others.
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LOL! That’s it. What gets me about gays is WHAT has this woman EVER done for gays? Where do they get this illusion that she is going to do something for gays? Because she says so? LOL! Her word is mud, this witch will say anything to get elected, what has she EVER done for anybody? And just what do gays want in the first place? They can already marry so what else? It just baffles me why they would be so fanatical about a woman who can’t speak longer than 5 minutes without lying through her teeth. These people are completely delusional. They are willing to allow the country to be destroyed for their own selfish delusions, I mean what do they expect, Hillary becomes President and it’s now all sunshine, rainbows and unicorns? They are utterly insane.
“Or maybe he is just a misunderstood Muslim male? “
Given most all muslime males are homosexual and have engaged in homo-sex. . . .
AIDS,Hep C,syphilis....
The man crotch grabber is going to break her heart, ruin her life and give her a disease that is a death sentence. Care enough to say something now?
Oh, brother. (eye roll)
Ping
Gee I don’t know. Tell her he is trying to kiss guys and grab crotches. She will hopefully get the picture.
I follow fashion only cuz its rammed down my gullet by my wife. If you didn’t know this and I could tell you the difference between lilac and lavender you’d think I was gay too. Musical theatre not so much. LOL.
Exactly. Fake letter used to create a strawman.
Whenever my sisters bring their BF’s around, we brothers have a litmus test and find out if they’re douchebags. Fags are another thing..
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About 30 years ago, my sister got a divorce, her ex husband started harassing her. My 2 younger brothers paid him a visit and simply told him, in no uncertain terms to leave her alone or there would be consequences. To this day, he has never bothered her again.
Cohabitation before marriage is a sin even if there is no sex.
I believe the Bible is explicit on this.
Care to show me, in the Bible?
She's also in danger of getting one of the many nasty diseases associated with eating fecal matter. Google "rimming".
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