Posted on 10/19/2015 1:24:27 PM PDT by nickcarraway
After a groom reportedly got cold feet and called off his wedding at the last minute, the jilted bride’s family decided not to cancel the reception at a four-star hotel in Sacramento.
A meal was served to the homeless at a Sacramento hotel after a wedding was called off at the last minute. (Credit: KCRA) A meal was served to the homeless at a Sacramento hotel after a wedding was called off at the last minute. (Credit: KCRA) Instead, they invited the city’s homeless to enjoy the sumptuous meal that had been planned for the post-nuptials celebration.
“When I found out Monday that the wedding would not be taking place, it just seemed like, of course this would be something that we would do to give back,” Kari Duane, the 27-year-old bride’s mother, told KCRA.
The television station reported that some $35,000 was spent in advance on the wedding — including the reservation of a banquet hall at the Citizen Hotel, overlooking the Sacramento skyline.
That’s where scores of strangers — some of whom arrived alone, others with their children or grandparents — were welcomed to dine on a feast of salad, salmon, gnocchi and tri-tip beef.
“I think it’s very generous, actually,” said Erika Craycraft, who partook of the meal. “To lose out on something so important to yourself and then give it to someone else is really giving.”
Rashad Abdullah and his wife, Erika Craycraft, brought their five children to the venue.
“When you’re going through a hard time and struggle, for you to get out to do something different and with your family — it was a really a blessing,” Abdullah said.
The bride chose to stay home while the meal was served.
“I feel a lot of heartache and heartbreak for her,” Duane said. “But I will take something good from this. I will.”
The nonrefundable honeymoon was also paid for in advance, according to KCRA. The would-be wife and her mother were expected to leave for Belize on Sunday.
Oh ha, I can top that nonsense.
On our first date, this guy was telling me about THE most awful wedding experience in his family:
While the ceremony went off without a hitch, the bride (his sister) & new hubby took off for the honeymoon cruise.
Bride’s mother & boyfriend showed up on the same cruise as a “surprise”. (ugh imagine double-dating with your mom on your honeymoon)
Days later, mom’s boyfriend keeled over from a heart attack on said same cruise. Yep, dead mom boyfriend. Honeymoon OVER.
I knew then & there that this honeymoon horror guy wasn’t Mr. Right, as I wept from laughter non-stop. Thought it was the most hilarious thing i’d heard in years.
My date found nothing funny about it. Guess his mom needed therapy or something later to cope, and the dead boyfriend karma thing screwed with his sister’s marriage (according to him). And that made me laugh even harder. Whackadoodles tend to do that.
Probably has nothing to do with this jilted bride & her mom’s honeymoon: I just like sharing that story :-) In fact, i’m laughing and tearing up all over again just remembering it.
Thanks, I needed that!
PS...Bridey should have taken her BFF (or the best man’s stripper girlfriend). BFF’s get you action/distractions when you are at your lowest. Mom just reminds you of the bad stuff.
Huh? Who should she have gone with? Maybe she needed some sympathy and understanding vs. inviting her girlfriends for a party. Not sure what motivated the groom, but I feel awful for this woman.
The groom apparently already did.
Whom would you take in the groom’s place if you were the bride?
That sounds very good. Maybe they didn't know another couple ready to go on a couple days' notice. As I understand it, neither the reception nor the honeymoon trip could be rescheduled.
My guess would be that the original guests would feel awkward about showing up.
My guess would be that the original guests would feel awkward about showing up.
To me, marriage is all about a young couple cutting the apron strings and starting a new life together. A "too close" relationship with a bride or groom's mother is a warning sign. I tell my two sons - now courting age - to beware of a girl who is very close to her mother. Because you will end up marrying the both of them.
BTW, the same advice goes for the women out there. If your prospective husband is a "mama's boy", you are heading down a bad road.
Not saying that married couples can't maintain a good relationship with their parents. But cut those apron strings!
In the early years of my own marriage, things improved considerably when we got a few zip codes away from our MILs.
Good for the groom.
First of all what made this person so special to need a $35,000.00 wedding anyway? She seems like a real narcissist.
The fact that he now doesn’t have to be legally the slave to this women will leave him the chance to live a life for himself. He will be far better off.
You guys just aren’t getting it. I wouldn’t go on the honeymoon at all if I was jilted on the altar. How can a jilted bride enjoy the honeymoon, no matter who she brings. It just seems so weird to me.
Well said.
“Let the original guests party on as planned and maybe raffle off the honeymoon trip during the reception. “
That will be awkward. The reception obviously includes the groom’s side. It will feel uncomfy for say, the groom’s best bud to be there when he’s associated with the groom.
I don’t know, if the bride is crushed and heartbroken, it might be that her mom is the right person to go with her. Her mom will ease her through her grief, and accept being around her, even if she starts crying every hour for a few days. Even her best friends might tire of that soon, and not want to spend a whole trip to Belize with someone who is not yet capable of having “fun”.
The bride made a wise decision to take her mother.
Everyone seems to blame the groom, but we don’t know the reasons the groom had to end this like he did. I am just glad two young people did not feel pressured to go ahead when they realized the marriage should not happen. The bride’s family indeed is classy to give away the meals. Generous of them. Prayers for them.
It’s not a “honeymoon” anymore, now it’s just a trip to Belize with mom...some getting away for a while, consoling, building up and moving on kind of trip.
Did you read this thread? It seems like most people take this as proof that the bride is a terrible person.
I think you have read ideas into the post that were not there.
I don’t think the mother or the bride’s relationship with her mother was the cause of the wedding being cancelled.
You seem to be suggesting that the mother was already going on the honeymoon, but I don’t believe that was the case.
Some people love and adore their mother and father. That isn’t lame. It speaks volumes about their heart. They were raised in a very loving environment and therefore are able to pass that ability to love deeply onto their future husband and their children. She is a peach.
Hopefully in life you will eventually learn the difference between lust and true love. It is vast like the ocean with true love being worth everything.
I did read further down after I posted. People know NOTHING of this family, either of these families. They are projecting. I thought only liberals did that. LOL
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.