Posted on 08/06/2015 4:16:53 PM PDT by rickmichaels
Dr. Spock has ruined several generations of children. We get the theater shooters from these idiots. Out of control spoiled brats.
Never having had children myself; it would seem that common sense would dictate that reasoning doesn’t work with children. At least not small children; I would think that they are not capable of reasoning at that age.
Our kids sat with us in the pews and dressed for Sunday.
They loved it. We were homeschooled and Sunday and dressing up was a treat for them.
They were obedient cooperative and polite because they knew it was expected. we went home changed and had a blessing lunch with the family of the week and a fun afternoon. Sunday was really a Sunday back then.
One does not reason with children however one needs to explain what is going on and why. then if possible one gives no more than two choices to the child.
But by then....she was very well behaved.
Can we apply this info to managing Ditch?
People who try to reason with a 4 year old end up looking like Lindsey Graham in a presidential debate.
Thank you.
I find that without the nursery I spend more time tending to a fussy or fidgety child than I do the message.
ROFL! Good One!
Back to spanking. Works so good on most kids you only have to do it once, they tend to remember that and don’t want a repeat.
Why’d you hit me there?
Where’s your brains?
It utilizes a particular pressure point that somehow sharpens the powers of reasoning.
Children are, by definition, insane.
You can’t reason with them until you’ve built a loose framework of “if you do X bad things happen”. THEN you can start discussing nuances of where that line is, and why it is there.
“I don’t wanna!” makes perfect sense to a child, who doesn’t care what you think.
Yeah, right! Overheard after explaining why four year old girls should not play inside cars in the summertime: "Daddy, why is peanut butter sticky?".
Stupid “advice “ because it is not adjusted for child’s age.
Kind of related...when the kids were little, I’d come back from trade shows with bags of swag and trinkets. If I gave it to them according to what I thought each would like, everybody was upset, mad at me, and lots of tantrums.
I solved it by dumping all the treasure on the floor with simple instructions. You each pick out one thing you like and we’ll go around the circle until everything is gone. Then you can each make two trades that you mutually agree upon with your brother or sister. BUT, if I hear any whining or complaining, I will take it all back and put it in the trash. It worked like a charm. Kids all learned how cooperation could lead to better outcomes for all and I never once had to dump it in the trash.
Whacked the crap out of my kids - didn’t seem to hurt them in the long run...not one bit.
Other parents I know learned the HARD WAY what trusting liberalism brings.
Oh well.
Are these the same folks who tell us children’s minds are not fully-developed and capable of reason until they’re 26 years old?
Toddlers are not little adults with slightly impaired reasoning powers.
First time compliance works really well. The first violation or failure to obey, regardless of severity, gets some punishment. Take them in the bathroom, tell them what they did wrong, have them apologize, pray with them and then administer the punishment.
The nice thing about stopping things at the first violation is that they are normally less severe than if you let it string out. So the punishment can be lighter.
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