I’ll shock you by saying that attempts at relational amends could have stood to have been made by the family.
They became overly rigid by means of legalism, and it is mildly amusing to me that those who are coming down on them the hardest are also very legalistic minded.
If anything, this shows what happens to grace when legalism impinges.
FTR, HiTech, I am definitely not legalistic. I love being a libertine.