"Instead of marrying just meet a random woman in the street who hates you, and give her half of all your property."
Porn is just a natural filler for unsatisfied desires. The desires are unsatisfied because the legal and financial danger of having a relation is high and is only getting higher. At the same time the financial need to have children (who will take care of you once you become old and infirm at the ripe age of 35) is nonexistent, as rare a child finances their parents - but mutual funds usually do. A rational man would be better off taking the cash that he hasn't spent on family and children and investing it. If you want to know why some men still marry, their reasons are outside of realm of rational; they are firmly in the immaterial realm of hope and feelings and expectations.
Yet marriage is the picture that God gives of His relationship to the Church. A relationship where the husband loves his wife enough to give His life for her, and the wife respects her husband enough to give up her control for Him.
It’s not a business arrangement. It’s not a “what’s in it for me?” For men and women it’s a chance to learn where they are still immature brats and be forced to grow up. Growing up is worth that pain, and what is born out of it all is the ability to love without thought of what you get back. “Fireproof” is a fantastic movie that really addresses what real love is. It doesn’t just happen in marriage, but marriage is a place where it is tested beyond most other relationships.
I understand men being afraid, but love is worth it. The trick is to find a spouse who is ALSO willing to be filled with Jesus’ love and to spend a lifetime passing on that love and growing out of their own selfishness. If both people are doing that, it’s a totally different ballgame than what you’ve described, which is truly a scary prospect.
Some wit called that the triumph of hope over experience.