I believe it was a fellow lost causer that once noted, “The hit dog howls”.
Note that I wear my Ohio heritage as a badge of honor. Grant lived in the next County over. A great uncle of mine, born a few years after the war ended had a giant etching of Robert E. Lee on one wall and one of Grant on the other of his study. On the other hand, I attended Oberlin College in Northern Ohio, which was in the forefront of baiting the South from the 1830s until the war. There I studied in depth, the perfidy of some less tolerant Americans. (Oberlin, by virtue of its activities in the critical period, had a very extensive collection of anti-Southern tracts.) I am not imagining anything about the vitriol to which the Southern leaders were being subjected prior to the War.
That I recognize the honor of the Confederates and that many of their legal arguments were valid, does not mean, however, that I am bemoaning a victory, largely determined by my neighbors' forebears. I am very mindful of the tremendous respect that General Grant showed to General Lee at the end of the hostilities--also the way that General MacArthur treated the Blue & Grey with similar honor: Duty, Honor, Country. I share the Grant & MacArthur respect for Southern honor & heroism. I also, of course, applaud the enduring heritage of the Founders, which has always been well reflected in Southern values.
You think that using insulting terms strengthens an argument. It does not.
America, as a federation of kindred States, with limited Government, only can work, as intended, with mutual respect among the partners. We are all suffering, today, because there is no mutual respect in Washington. Your vilification of some of the children & grandchildren of the heroic generation that won Independence, does not help us pull together to deal with the present crisis.