My two adult children are adopted . We assisted both in finding their birth parents and it was so freeing for both of them to finally have the answers to where they came from and what happened to cause them to be given up. We are still mom and dad plus grandma and grandpa to the next generation but the kids have developed healthy relationships with the birth families as well. While I must say it is a little different it is all good and I am happy for my children that they were able to open that door.
My four adopted from birth kids have their parent’s birth info. Three are in contact. All of the Birth moms were receptive.
The kids have varying relationships with their birthmothers. From email weekly to ‘Yes, I met you, but no thank you.’ to a birthmother who expected the child to pack up and move in with her under the statement : they had you for 19 years and it is now my turn!
I have always kept in touch with the mothers with an annual update.