But just over two years ago I lost the love of my life to cancer (I had met her three years earlier). We met online and hit it off instantly in our chats and email exchanges.
Then, just before our first face-to-face meeting, she told me that she had recently undergone surgery after having been diagnosed with breast cancer a few months earlier, and that she was only halfway through her course of chemo treatments.
She said that she would understand if I wanted to back out of meeting her.
Something told me that if I didn't meet her, it would be the biggest mistake of my life. So I met her and fell hopelessly in love in a very short time.
She was my true soul mate -- temperamentally and intellectually. Our physical chemistry was amazing. But best of all we shared a deep love and technical understanding of music. She was an internationally renowned classical musician with a long list of recordings and professional accomplishments, as well as being head of the music department at a well known local university.
I am a jazz guitar player with a cum laude degree from Berklee College of Music. Our musical connection was like nothing I have ever experienced with anybody.
We had thought she was cured of her illness, but after 18 months together, the cancer metastasized. She began exhibiting various debilitating symptoms and underwent more surgery and a new round of brain radiation and oral chemo. I took care of her at my place for the next none months before she finally went into the hospital, and then the hospice where she died five weeks later.
I admit that I think of that sentimental Bobby Goldsboro song sometimes. Just the other day, in fact. And it still makes me sad.
But not as sad as this one.
Thanks for listening.
Good for you that you followed your instinct, you took a chance and fell in love. You would be surprised at how many people never, ever do meet someone upper tier special, someone they could truly called their ‘soul mate’. As you no doubt discovered, part of the joy of being in a loving relationship is allowing yourself to put your emotional guard down for a little while, then trust your loved one with your heart and soul.
I’m with you hoss
You really love a woman and you get the meaning of syrupy songs about pain
I’m sorry
Life without my rib would just kill me
Love for a little while is better than not at all. I am sorry your life together was short. I recently lost the love of my life after 44 years and even that wasn’t long enough.