Posted on 02/18/2015 3:39:54 PM PST by DeoVindiceSicSemperTyrannis
I wouldn’t call her “desperate”, I would call her smart.
Remember that in India, a dowry is typically paid from the family of the bride to the family of the groom. Non-refundable. Since her intended groom was a lemon, by Indian standards, it shows she was on the ball to solicit another member of the groom’s family. The dowry is still good.
It is as much a business deal as anything, so no deep emotional ties there. She is becoming a member of her groom’s family, leaving her birth family behind, and this shows them she has a good head on her shoulders.
Let’s hope she’s found happiness. We knew a receptionist who finally got her daughter married off. She threw a huge fancy catered soirée for her girl at the swankest country club in 400 miles. $35,000 just for lunch. Years of debt for mommy to pay off. We didn’t say anything to ruin her joy but felt it was a foolish waste of $
Yes; I’ve known people to drop $$ on weddings that would have made a down-payment on a very nice house.
(And I’ve never gotten ‘destination weddings’. It’s like the whole thing is some kind of show-biz production, not really a wedding. Nowadays, many of them are divorced in a few years. Then they do it all over - wearing white again ;-)
I know things in India are different; many are still more-or-less arranged marriages. Pride lost, perhaps; but Love?
Let’s hope it all turns out for the best.
-JT
I dropped about 25 grand on weddings for each of my daughters.
That probably wouldn’t rent a decent hall in NYC or Cal, but was a decent shindig here in the midwest.
Hmm..that’s very interesting, didn’t know that. Traditionally, in iran for example, dowry is paid by bridegroom’s family; mainly as a type of financial guarantee should they divorce later & since western type family law (divorce for instance) wasn’t developed back then. More info http://www.iranchamber.com/culture/articles/iranian_marriage_ceremony.php
Thought iranian culture was similar to the indian one in that respect!
‘I guess he should have tried harder to get word to her.”
Wow; what a great ad this would make for a cell phone company.!
“Jagdish (or whatever the poor guys name is); chose a cut rate cell phone plan and his calls and texts didn’t go through”
Ding. Ding. How right you are, Martinidon.
That handle have anything to with clear liquids garnished with olives?
But I doubt you flew the whole wedding party to a vacation Isle, and put everyone up for days.
People actually do that now; and while I believe that people are free to do whatever they want with their own money, turning a wedding into a blockbuster sensation makes no sense to me on a number of levels...
-JT
She did not marry someone from the groom’s family, she married her sister’s brother-in-law.
No this was a hometown deal....all the commerce generated went local...and it’s produced a passel of cute grandchildren...;-)
As I understand it, “feelings” as we in the West think of them as important in a romantic/marital relationship, are not important in Indian culture. Most marriages are arranged. Not sure if this poor bloke’s family gets to keep the dowry.
‘Hometown Deal’ is the best kind; and congratulations, Grandparent!
-JT
It sounds like he didn’t tell her he had seizures so that is why she was angry. I think she didn’t want to be married to a man who had seizures, so she married the brother-in-law of her sister.
Yes; in India, marriage is more a duty to your family and your society, than something self-gratifying.
I think even male homosexuals in India will marry and father children; because it’s such a strong cultural duty.
-JT
Reminds me of a Seinfeld monologue at the start of an rpisode.
Kishore bride goodbye ... no con-Jugal visits for you!
*snicker* Or just finger them....
If it is an arranged marriage, this is a contractual arrangement and he hid a medical defect.
“Honey, you’d better be ready to go right after the wedding.”
“Then sweetie, you’d better be there when the wedding starts.”
A serious brain problem never stopped Joe Biden!
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