Posted on 12/24/2014 11:26:58 PM PST by billys kid
Death of a loved one I know it's late. However my husband passed away October 1st. And I'm not coping very well. He had just turned 56 in August. I miss him so very much. Any help would very much be appreciated.
My sincere condolences.
I’m sure he wanted to be missed.....but he wouldn’t want you to be sad....
My desire to help is trumped only by my inability. It is often said, but time does heal.
I wish I could offer more than words of comfort.
Although not close to losing my wife, I lost my mom with whom I was very close years ago and there is still a hole there. Time is like ice — it numbs but nothing can heal such a loss.
I CAN tell you that FReepers really care and you will have many prayers, starting with mine, for today and all days. Holidays will be the hardest — stay near your family and loved ones. You don’t have to participate in anything, just be near and know they love you.
God bless you and a prayer ping to some of the prayer warriors I know. (there are many)
Blessed Christmas to you.
That’s a very tough one. I couldn’t imagine what that must be like. My wife and I have been married for 20 years, and I would be completely devastated if I lost her.
I wish there was something I could say here that would make you feel better, but I’m sure there’s not.
I hope and wish for you the very best.....
May this Christmas morning give new blessings of God’s love for each of us and place it firmly in your heart.
All I can offer is this amazing quote from the latest Hobbit movie:
Tauriel: “Why does it have to hurt so much?”
Tharanduil: “Because it was real.” (Where “it” refers to your love for each other.)
Do not be afraid or ashamed to cry. Nothing else will be as effective at healing the hurt. It’s what your soul needs. It’s how you know that your love was real, that your life together mattered, and that your life is still worth living — because your future happiness is the one thing he would want more than anything.
Joining in prayer.
My husband passed away in November 2008. I was only 44 years old with a 14 year old son at home. I went through the motions at Christmas and felt like a detached observer of others’ joy. But my husband still appeared to me in my dreams, I still remembered the sound of his voice, I could remember his smell and his smile...I came to see these as wonderful gifts. Your wound is still fresh. Please come to grips with the fact that you will hurt...you will grieve...the holiday may be almost unbearable for you, but this hurt is an honorable thing. With every tear you honor him. One day, in the not too distant future, you will also be able to recognize the gifts left behind. I pray that you find peace in knowing that you were blessed with the time that you had with a spouse you clearly adored. God bless you!
I was thinking of the same quote from the same movie.
The loss of a loved one brings the greatest emptiness. Don’t fall into the dark side. Be strong and pray for guidance.
Sorry you lost your friend and husband.
Hopefully his memory will be of some warmth and the knowledge that he is with God, who we all hope to be with one day.
Funny. I took care of a friend for 6 years and still have dreams that are so real I wake up and can’t go back to sleep.
For the 1st year after I would frequently get up running to her voice, thinking she needed help.
I ran into the wall a couple times and a door jam twice, giving myself a black eye.
LOL!!! Can’t believe that one.
Stupid I guess.
Maybe she will leave me alone tonight. She doesn’t have to.
With sincerest gratitude and tears streaming down my face, i thank you for your love and concern. He was a lurker and loved free Rebublic. He grew in wisdom and everyday common sense because of this site. I would be emotional whereas he was practical. He would have to wait at least 5 minutes for me to stop laughing when out of the blue a freeper would make a joke when a serious subject was being discussed. this is why we love this site so much. i don’t know if that makes sense, however, with all the different sites I read, this is the best. My God I miss him!
bttt
That is young to be gone. No doubt you had plans for the future.
No advice will suffice. And there is no hiding place from the grief, other than in Jesus.
May God strengthen you through his word, his Spirit and his people.
The pain will subside, but not the remembrance. You really don't want that to disappear, and I would pray for you that it would not. Ever.
Funny,your sweet and I get it. Thanks for the laugh. I get it and can’t stop laughing my ass off. There I said it!
billy kid
I have not lost a spouse...but I did lose my Dad when I was 18...being a guy I was not supposed to cry and I did not ...
for a year...then one day I did cry...In my grief I believe I found that I blamed my Father...but that was wrong...but I didn’t understand all of my grief until I went through the complete cycle.
I did move in with my Mom and 6 year old brother and helping them helped me.
Do seek out grief counseling and there are local support groups of people that are going through some of the same feelings.
You are in my Prayers to Jehovah God...and remember...
Jesus wept at the death of his friend...John 11:35.
We have hope of being with our loved ones in the resurrection.
God can help us heal of our sorrows in this life.
He will wipe away all tears in the next life.
Hey, it’s been three years and a couple days.
She follows me everywhere.
She was 101 and 5 months when God took her in his arms.
Loved her sohhhh much.
a bit more than twice my age but, we had the best time together.
Wicked, smart, funny and just full of love for everyone.
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