No I am not. I am advocating a position where people follow the law, honor their commitments, and stay true to their word. Your false analogy of the husband and wife is the epitome of inaptness.
If you will permit me, I'll suggest that our FRiend's analogy of husband and wife is entirely appropriate, providing we understand that Fire Eating secessionists are the "husband" and our poor troops in Fort Sumter the "wife".
Now, doesn't it all make sense?