That they mucked up the initial stages of separation there can be no doubt, but this doesn't answer the larger question. Do people have a right to separate? My answer is "Yes. Yes they do. "
You may call it "Anarchy" but is that not their choice? If a wife leaves a husband and does poorly, does this mean she ought not have the right to leave because she will do poorly?
You are advocating a position of forcing people to do what the government says... for their own good. I believe the common term used nowadays is "nanny state."
Are you an advocate for the nanny state?
Do you believe that the government knows what is best for you and ought to be able to force you to comply with what they think is best for you?
When the South seceded in 1861 there was zero anarchy. The legislatures of the seceding states drafted articles of secession which were ratified and signed by the Governors of each of those states. Then the secession went out for referendum to be decided by the citizens. Absolutely zero anarchy.
No I am not. I am advocating a position where people follow the law, honor their commitments, and stay true to their word. Your false analogy of the husband and wife is the epitome of inaptness.