No $#*+ Sherlock. I bought the house before we were married, as a single person. She got the house.
Seems to me if you’ve made it that long, you could try and patch it together.
It’s only devastating if you’re the man. If there are children involved, you REALLY get it up the ass sideways, with a rusty chainsaw.
I’ve never had to go through it, but I’ve known of MANY others that have, and it’s totally unfair in most cases.
The odds of a successful marriage (i.e., no divorce) go from about 50/50 when married to an American to about 90/10 when married to someone from a culture where divorce is NOT looked at as a means of enrichment.
I chose the second.
Well, if this is to be fixed, step number one has to be getting rid of no fault divorce.
A whole lot of this nonsense didn’t happen when the party that wanted to play the field or who just took off leaving the debts and the kids was guaranteed to bear the brunt of the losses. Domestic violence, infidelity, gambling the family into poverty...there was no “sharing” the loss when your long suffering spouse had enough (assuming a judge followed the law which is a separate issue) you just got what your behavior earned.
There is no way to try to fix things that will not instead just make it worse if that is not a prerequisite.
That first sentence frosts my hide.
There is something valid about positive contribution to earnings and net worth made by a stay at home spouse. I’ve known a number of people who alone never would have amounted to much but between their own limited capabilities and the limited capabilities of their spouse, they were able to do quite well for themselves.
The disconnect is so strange.
Most of the divorced men I know insist they were cleaned out by a venomous ex wife.
Most of the divorced women I know insist their ex husbands are screw ups with almost nothing to divide upon divorce.
I think everyone is full of it.
Robin Williams...
No one comes out looking good out of a divorce. Its a tribute to human selfishness, venality and greed - and the belief the grass looks greener on the other side.
If you’re divorcing for a change of lifestyle, maybe you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place.
Enticements to break and rob common, working families keeps the potential competition from rising. That’s what it’s really about, and nearly all big political lobbies involved with both political parties have been involved. But go on ahead. Finish the default process. Have fun. Enjoy the slide.
What’s the joke about a tornado and divorce? I think the punchline is something like “either way a redneck is going to lose his trailer”.
One of my peeps at work is going through a horrible divorce. I don’t usually say this about another mom, but, his ex-wife ain’t wrapped right.
Because of child support, other financial difficulties and our seasonal slowdown at work, he lost his home.
It is brutal out there, especially for young people with children involved. That is who is really suffering.
A hit man is always cheaper than a lawyer.
Buddy of mine just finished his divorce. It cost them about $200 between them just for legal fees.