All I’m saying is that if someone has wronged me, and wants my forgiveness, he has to ask for it, and he may have to make it right.
Otherwise, fine. MY aim is to waste no more thought on him. I am through with that person, and it would be best for them if they never needed anything from me.
I have to admit though, I do have a lot of trouble with the whole “vengeance is mine’ thing and have spent a lot of time in prayer about nit.
When you say “and he may have to make it right”, I feel I must warn you a little bit. God didn’t require us to “make it right” before sending Jesus to atone for our sins. Not only is repentance needed for us to be forgiven, but our own willingness to forgive as well. Requiring compensation first is not forgiveness. I’m aware that the entire concept is not easy or intuitive, but it starts to make sense the more you consider it.