And allowing God to close the forgiveness loop on His own has side benefits. God has already promised that whatever we give for His sake... property, whatever... will be rewarded in multiple. So someone stole $1000 from me and went to parts unknown. I give that to the Lord. I don’t go hunting for that person to hound him. Then suddenly I find $1000 in my budget that I never dreamed could be there. God paid it back.
No, it was stolen from you.
The thief has broken a commandment, which is between them and God.
I had a few hundred stolen from me by a very vile man one time years ago.
It’s done, from my perspective, no way I’ll ever see the guy again.
It happened before I was saved, so it bothered me a lot for a while. Then I just forgot about it. Who dwells on such things ?
If he was converted to Christ and theoretically found me, I could understand such a person wanting to pay back what they stole. But it’s of course the soul that really matters, not the money stolen from me. I’m not waiting for this payment ! Then, after my conversion I recalled the event and saw it in a new light, where I was preserved through a situation by the Lord even before I converted.
Take the case of someone owing you money, a friend. If they’re “down and out”, you don’t bother them about it.
But in all such cases, these people ultimately have to reckon with God.
These are easy cases. What about if a person perpetrated some violence on someone you love - and they go unpunished by the law ? That’s difficult to just “forget”, to not seek vengeance. That takes some serious amount of faith, IMHO.