You think you have all the answers. My father was a career Marine and when I was a young boy he was stationed at Camp Lejune, NC. Then when I was a teen he was stationed there again, I spent time there after Paris Island. There are/were problems with water contamination there that may affect me and my health. The VA knows all about this. A local Doctor may not!
Many Marines their families and loyal civilian employees have been affected by the contamination in various ways including, but not limited to: liver cancer, kidney cancer, breast cancer, bladder cancer, ovarian cancer, prostate cancer, cervical cancer, lung cancer, leukemia, non Hodgkins lymphoma, liver disease, miscarriages, birth defects (cleft palate, heart defects, Choanal atresia, neural tube defects, low birth weight, and small for gestational age),etc. Unfortunately, many of these families still have not been notified by the USMC of the danger from their exposure. In 1987 Camp Lejeune was recommended for listing as a Superfund site on the National Priorities List (NPL) by the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA). Camp Lejeune was officially listed as a Superfund site in 1989.
I never thought I had all the answers
BUT based on what you have told us you for 2 days, for what you want, which as YOU said was a private practice primary doc, logically you should look at the list of Docs from your wife’s insurance
or a list Medicare can provide you
It makes NO sense for you to wait months to ask a VA doc for a private practice Doc
If that is what you wanted you could have had a list in the time you have spent here
and based on what you said it makes NO sense for your wife to insist you see a VA doc to get a private doc when she has access to a list of names from her insurance
So now you are changing your story again
Really?
If you are so concerned about things that happened when you were a child why have you been saying all along you only want a private Doc
and if you are so concerned about something that happened over 50 years ago why are you just now going to see a VA doc
Again thank you for your service but your story changes too much for me to care
Good Luck