Your neighbor isn’t going to be on the floor above you, nor the floor below you. Even in a duplex, condo, etc. you usually still have separate parking, separate entrances and some real estate between you.
You can’t honestly expect to convince someone that renting in an apartment building is the same as a landed detached house.
some people rent houses, so no attachment issues there.. and some people own condos that are attached to other condos--so even being an owner can mean being attached to an unfavorable neighbor...