Had a meeting after my rant.
Just moved here, no pedi yet. Not opposed to it, just opposed to the part where they tell my wife they won’t release our baby if I don’t give them a name.
Now I’m (and I’m guessing all on the thread) are getting a better understanding of your situation. You have older children, you just relocated and you are expecting a new baby to the mix. A lot on your (and your families’) plate right now.
It’s great that you have 4 nurses (with their mothering experiences) in the family. I have a dear friend who was a head NICU nurse, and she is now retired. She has one adult daughter and was thrilled to be in the birthing suite when her granddaughter was born. Everything was routine til the water fully ruptured and meconium was noted. An emergency Csection was done (and my friend was allowed in the OR) she relayed how utterly torn she was seeing the NICU staff working on her grandbaby, yet knowing she was too emotionally attached to trust her judgment. The little girl is now 2 and has asthma issues (she inhaled some meconium). My friend watches the little girl (while parents work) and she has to administer her meds. She is back in full “nurse mode” (going to the ped visits; checking the meds/doses) yet as skilled/experienced she is, she defers to pediatrican’s judgment (detached professional). Asking close relatives to be sole medical providers is putting THEM in a very precarious position (if there are any complications).
I really hope things look clearer and more settled in a day or two for you...your stress isn’t good for any of you.
G-d bless!