I think Tesla Model S scored better than Nissan Titan in safety.
http://usnews.rankingsandreviews.com/cars-trucks/Nissan_Titan/Safety/
http://www.edmunds.com/car-news/2013-tesla-model-s-earns-highest-rating-in-federal-crash-tests.html
You sound like my father-in-law. This magazine said this! That reviewer said that! Reviews and write ups do not matter, regardless of who is completing them. Ask a first responder, firefighter, EMT, etc. who wins in a crash. You want a safe car for your family? Ask a firefighter what he recommends. Most of the department wives drive big vehicles for a reason. I do not car shop like my FIL, walking around with Motor Trend clutched firmly in hand because I allow paid writers to tell me what I like and dislike.