Okay, BJK, IF you wd like me to reply to this post, something’s going to happen first. Namely, an apology. Am apology for post 174.
First, you claim to be a Christian but you gossiped behind my back. I’m going to assume you have at least a passing enough familiarity w your Bible to know what’s wrong w that.
Second, the underlying issue. I’ve posted here a lot. Never once in all that time has anyone ever said to me, ‘That’s it. First reason x, I will not read anything more you say, period’. I’ve seen it happen to many others, but it’s never happened to me.
If, however, it did happen, I can tell you some things straight out of the gate. First & foremost, I wd not post to that person again.
Why?
Primarily because I am an honest person. If I tell somebody I’m going to do something, I mean it. Therefore, my default mode is to assume the same of others. I.e.: I don’t assume they’re lying because in their place, I wouldn’t lie.
So since the person wd not be reading any more of my posts, why waste my valuable time writing to them? I don’t engage in futile efforts, for one thing, and more importantly, I have v little discretionary time to begin w. My schedule is, in fact, so full that it’s all I can do to post to a few threads in the course of any given day. Why I wd waste any of that precious time posting to a person who doesn’t want to hear what I have to say is beyond me.
Which ties into the second point. Why wd I attempt to force my words onto a party that desn’t want to hear them? That is disrespectful at best & neurotic at worst. Have you ever witnessed a person trying to force an unwilling party to listen to them? It’s an ugly, disquieting sight. Why is it any different if it happens on the Net? It’s still weird, & not something I want any part of.
If the above considerations were not enough [they’d be more than enough, obviously] there is a third. Namely, I’d be afraid of looking like a pathetic loser. I.e.: the kind of person who simply cannot let it go, has nothing better to do, and will continue to try to be heard long past the point when they’ve been tuned out. Who wants to look that way in public? It has LOSER spelled all over it.
So now to the specific situation. I informed a party on this thread I wd no longer read their posts. I said it & I meant it. Somehow you interpreted that as “projecting my behavior onto others”. & you did it in a snide, underhanded way. [I.e.: you discussed me publicly, by name, w’out pinging me, & you did it in the classic nasty-gossip mode.]
So you can just apologize.
Or not. It’s up to you. However, if no sincere apology is forthcoming, you’ll hear no more from me. The choice is yours.
[Oh, & by the way, what behavior of mine am I projecting? Honesty? The party in question has been blatantly dishonest, so no, that’s not the one in play. Why don’t you spell it out, BJK—or are you too gutless?]
“It’s an ugly, disquieting sight.”
Creepy. Creepy was the word I was looking for, which sums that kind of behavior up far better than ‘ugly’ & ‘disquieting’.
Sorry about post #174, I nearly always remember to include anyone mentioned in the address line, don't need a never-ending lecture about that.
If some explanation would help you feel better, it happened because I posted from my allegedly "smart" phone, which isn't nearly as smart as it's cracked up to be -- or rather, it makes me look dumber than I like to think I am... ;-(
But let's be clear: as far as I can see, your highly personal attacks on Swing_Ladder and goodusername were totally unwarranted and unjustified by any normal Free Republic standards.
So, it appears to me that you act like a semi- or professional offense-taker, who maybe just posts here for the purpose of getting your feelings hurt -- so you can complain and make personal attacks on others.
Of course, that's fine with me -- it takes all kinds to make the world go round.
I'm just not interested in it.
But if you ever want to get over your personal feelings, and address the questions we were discussing, then feel free any time.
I'm always happy to respond. ;-)
Fantasywriter: "[Oh, & by the way, what behavior of mine am I projecting? Honesty? The party in question has been blatantly dishonest, so no, that’s not the one in play. Why don’t you spell it out, BJK—or are you too gutless?]"
Your accusations against Swing_Ladder and goodusername appear to me as totally unwarranted, unfair and untrue -- they came out of the blue, and sound to me more like something you yourself must be doing and the projecting on others.
My question to you is: why make it so personal?