I spent the morning with a niece, and learned more than I thought I wanted to know about certain relatives, and realized that I was, most likely, the One Anchor in her life.
That was SUCH an onerus burden...still...she is so much like me (whodathunkit?) that my first impulse is to BE THERE for her!
How can I NOT be? Her mother has abandoned her, and I’m all she has. Can I do this?
“How can I NOT be? Her mother has abandoned her, and I’m all she has. Can I do this?”
Only you can answer that question.
My missus thought she could handle me deploying and found the answer was “no, she cannot”.
I cannot advise you one way or the other on this.
But if you can do it, have the means to, and are able to, it is your call.
I found out more about teh missus family last year than I’d cared ot do.
Apparently they have misgivings on acting like actual family.
Hence why I got moved to rear detachment.
Which sucks.
Massively.
Can you move in with her? You have to think of your health first of all, or you can’t help anyone with anything. And you have to think of your financial maintenance, not driving all over creation for other people’s needs and then not having enough money for food for yourself.
You can work on being a help to your niece - with a concrete plan, if it comes to that - but first of all, be a you for you!!!
You can do it! Someday I’ll tell you about the most influential persons in my life. This sounds like your golden opportunity—your purpose—your calling. I’ll shut up now.
G’night ‘Face! G’night, FRiends!
Prolly, but I won't call it easy. My uncle had to raise two grandchildren as his own children because his daughter was a drug-addled mess. They got through it OK, but it wasn't easy.
You have to. It sounds like one of those “reason you’re here” kinda things. Just be there. :-)