Can you move in with her? You have to think of your health first of all, or you can’t help anyone with anything. And you have to think of your financial maintenance, not driving all over creation for other people’s needs and then not having enough money for food for yourself.
You can work on being a help to your niece - with a concrete plan, if it comes to that - but first of all, be a you for you!!!
Thanks, TC. Since my niece talked to me two days ago, crying, I did a lot of thinking, and tried to figure out ways to help her without being up to my armpits in drama.
1. I can’t help her by moving in, even though she has the room for me.
2. I don’t need to drive all over creation to try and tell her how much I love her and her family.
3. I gave her solutions to ALL of her problems if she were willing to accept them.
4. She is willing to listen to me, and has thought of the very solutions I suggested, but just needed to know that her thoughts were valid.
In the meantime, her kids (15 year old Nate and 4 year old Mattie) love the Auntie without reservation.
Picture this: Nate crawled out of his “man cave” and parked his lanky body on Auntie Nana’s lap, and gave me a hug to beat all hugs. He would have stayed there until Hell Froze Over, but his mom and I went shopping with the Little Redhead.
Life is good!