No kidding, mate. I know of very few friends (female) in their middle-thirties and above who do not fall into that category. Let themselves go, overweight, and/or have anklebiters and curtainclimbers to deal with, or, even worse, surly teenagers who surely don't want the likes of us coming about.
Yeah ..I don’t even mind the surly kids at least they mostly hole up and play video games. But when you go on dating web sites the woman over 40. ...vast majority fat.
I used to be that surly teenager 40 years ago. I ran off a lot of creeps that my dear mom didn't have the street smarts to see through.
When she finally brought home a decent bloke, I did my level best to sell him on our family, but unfortunately, he was a whole lot smarter than I was.