Sounds much like how things are with one I mentioned. The other one, presently living in Alaska, had more natural blondish hair with some red tint to it, in her younger days, making her as I said, "almost" red. She had some gray last I saw her, too. Undoubtedly has more now, and I seem to recall her mentioning in a phonecall that she decided to not try and fight it by turning to the (hairdye) bottle.
Now for the serious test question (to see how well you may match up with my lady friends). Do you have freckles, yes or no? Most redheads have freckles, if only a few. The blondie gal had light colored ones, appearing to not quite come to the surface of the skin of her checks and over bridge of the nose. I remember that as nice feature, with her overall being an attractive gal. The other, well she was hopeless with freckles, having more the suntan through a screen door look when she'd have been out in the sun...and she does love to grow things. A truly lovely woman, that one. You'd probably like her, specially if you can relate to Scotch thrift. She's quite conservative in that direction, but in a well balanced, sane & clear minded way. Turning gray where the once middling strong red has not merely faded...just saw her briefly a month ago. No hair dye for that one, either, not that I have anything against that sort of thing, or otherwise spend much time thinking about it.
Being a man, I care little for my outward appearance. Wash & wear. Blue jeans or similar most the time. Gray hair doesn't bother me. I've got beard full of it.
We all have our imperfections, and myself more than most, I feel safe in saying. But, our pasts, and our imperfections, are the things that shape us and make us the people we are. By the time we reach my age, we are hoping the process is mostly completed.