You know this song goes two ways.
I married a man who seemed happy and had a bunch of children.
He had hidden addictions and after years of trying to get back on track and near bankrupcy and drama we separated.
He loves his life alone. and I raised the kids. Now that the kids are older they adore him, he never says no.
I have one child perceptive enough to see his game. The rest just love their drama with him catering to all their whims. He now is letting one daughter explore her lesbian self in ninth grade. And when I try to talk to him about it he lies.
Since we are all individuals and therefor each different in our own ways, we see the whole spectrum of good and bad, strong and weak, brave and spineless, loving and self-centered - etc.
I know exactly how you feel only it is because my wife and I were not strong enough in our impressing upon our daughter life and the realities of life that she became a Pagan Druid Priest and now we have separated her from our family.