Posted on 07/31/2012 5:07:35 AM PDT by Sir Napsalot
“...I treated them the way I would a good female friend...”
That one rings a bell with me. I’ve been treated that way, and I’ve recognized it as such, although it was a little startling when I first experienced it in my younger days.
Wrong. Not even remotely tempted. Have the greatest hubby in the world and would never want anything else. This “study” is just another proof of the sad state of morality and self control in our culture.
Wrong. Not even remotely tempted. Have the greatest hubby in the world and would never want anything else. This “study” is just another proof of the sad state of morality and self control in our culture.
Yeah. This article looks like liberal projection. "I can't control myself, so obviously no one else can.", or somesuch rationalization.
I work with women every day. No sex. Frankly, it really doesn't ever cross my mind. The only time I mention it to my wife is when something might look improper - for instance, I'm meeting a (female) potential client for lunch this week. I've no idea what she's like or what she looks like (only talked on the phone), but I don't want Mrs WBill to even get a sniff of a wrong idea.
And does anyone other than me have a problem with the designation of people in their 20s and 30s as “emerging adults”?
Nah, I don't like it either. Gives you some insight as to the mentality of the writer of this piece.
If you think SS wearing pantsuits is Yuk, imagine her wearing skirts.
No, thanks.
I have to push the number keys to text, but it’s the best way to quickly communicate with my husband (”Get milk, bananas pls.”) because he doesn’t answer his phone or listen to his voice mails, so any attempt to talk to him on the phone ends up being tag.
I’m shocked!
I thought it was just me!;-)
Nope. Sorry. You are not the only one she wants to sleep with.
This^ ^ . I lived with my sister and her 2 female roommates for 8 weeks(long story). My mind was blown what one of her roomates did through actions..never looked at women the same way. It was a mind opener that women are just as piggish as men maybe more but they have slightly more self control..well not this roommate lol.
.I wish I could post the pics.
Ha! I remember having that conversation with my daughter when she was about that age. She looked at me incredulously and said, “you mean all those guys want to go out with me?” I laughed and said, “oh no Honey, they don’t want to DATE you....”. She told me I was wrong and didn’t understand, blah, blah, blah, they’re just friends. She still refused to believe even when her father agreed and said he’d once been a teenage boy and knows how they think.
I know some men that I think are handsome and/or charming. There’s a particular guitarist that my whole choir (married women between 40 and 70) sighs over when he’s at our church. However, I’m not interested in sex with any of them. It’s nice that their wives have a good-looking husband. (I have one, too!)
Maybe that’s a difference between men and women ... or maybe it’s just a difference between me and some of the men whose posts I read here.
no worries ladies... if you’re a liberal, not only do i not want to sleep with you... i find you repugnant and disease ridden who is wholly unable to be trusted and willing to abort any child without informing the father
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Someone did (your husband?) and recently. How do you figure pregnancy does not conjure sexual fantasy?
I don't have to cringe like that, because I wear skirts that reach my ankles. One can be so much more relaxed and confident when not worried that everyone can see one's undies.
Not simply to maintain equal reciprocality?
That is new to me. On the surface I’d say it’s the opposite of suggestive—it’s a one-up sort of thing that would seem to take traditional male-female romantic relations completely out of the picture.
You missed the direction, too: I was pointing out that it was logically improbable that *I* am interested in sex with *random non-husband man*, not the other way around. And younger men ... get real, what a bore.
There is a nice, older man from Puerto Rico who flatters me because I remind him of his late mother, but that’s hardly the stuff of a steamy affair.
Yes, I do! It appears to be a trend in that the age of indisputable adulthood has increased consistently over the years. We can read about 12 year olds leaving their homes and becoming apprentices and cabin boys and the like in the 1800s. The "Child Labor Laws" addressed a very real problem that was common to all the Industrial Revolution societies.
Now, we have laws on the books that can be interpreted as extending a form of childhood to age 26 (obamacare insurance coverage). We have the apocryphal stories about the 'professional students' who delay graduation as far as is possible. We have the permanent 'protest movement' which appears to consist of these ages we are discussing who's salient feature appears to be "no adult employment" (or desire for any).
Our society is far more flexible than ever before but can it take 25%+ minority youth unemployment? Can we expect entry-level learning jobs to be made available when our lawmakers seek to raise "minimum wage" to $10/hour? Can you be an adult, emerging or otherwise, without making a living on your own?
Just don’t assume that women know what they’re doing. In my situation, I really didn’t see these guys as guys.
I finally woke up (to my horror and my husbands smirks of ‘I told you so’) and have lived with my ‘rules’ for 16 years. I never touch a non-related male unless I’m pulling him from a fire. I am never alone with a non-related male. If a situation comes up where I *must* be alone with a non-related male (repair man), my husband is aware of the situation and I never allow him to get closer than 6 feet. I’m not a b*tch about it, but I keep the lines very clear. I don’t trust ANY male.
The attitude that ‘women know what they’re doing’ is a dangerous one. I can see how men could come to resent women and - possibly even come to hate them - if they believed that.
It is just as difficult for a woman to see things from a male’s perspective as it is for a man to see things from a woman’s. You think that, because such behaviors have a sexual context for you, that it must be the same for her.
Guys and girls *are* different and sometimes the male brain is friggin’ alien to us.
And yes, there are plenty of manipulative brats out there who do tease men. But it takes so little to ‘tease’ a guy! You really do have to go to extreme lengths NOT to.
About 10 years ago my husband and I were friends with another couple. We would get together and play hearts. One night, I had gotten up for a beer and went to sit back down at the table. The idiot had his legs spread out under the table and I accidentally kicked his foot when I went to sit down. I said sorry and he pulled his leg back.
His wife told me that he went off in the car on the way home about me ‘playing footsie’ with him under the table. She was there. She remembered the situation and she defended me. And that wasn’t the only time that he did that.
His BS did end up ruining my friendship with his wife. It placed doubts in her mind and she eventually stopped trusting me. Even though I was NEVER alone with him, she started wondering if I was trying to seduce her husband.
When we first became friends, she told me that she had never had a female friendship last before because ALL of her friends ended up hitting on her husband. Now I see where she got that from.
People who think “only” men are pigs are fooling themselves. Being intentionally vague, I worked in a select industry for many years which involved many celebs and one that especially involved travel and stays at hotels. When a male is young and rich, for some reason, women do anything, and I mean anything, to latch onto that person. These women weren’t just the groupie types, I am specifying support staff of the same or similar employers. Women are generally more demure about these methods while men are usually more open; however, I have seen plenty of so-called “victims” who not only initiated but also completed their tasks only to regret it when they realize they aren’t that special.
I was once a manager in an industry where the workforce was 85% female, and I must say I never suffered from this delusion (though I did meet my wife there)
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