I've always had many healthy friendships with women.All 3 of my long term relationships with GF's were from being friends first.
I posted this on another thread...
It's because Gabz, I more than anyone know how EASILY these friendships turn into something else.
I did something really stoooopid when I was 20..was a fitness trainer at a local gym while going to Uni. Had a 7 month affair with a married woman ( I was single) who was a client..long story short I was fired and her marriage broke up over it (her friend she confided in told her husband...) Feel very guilty about it to this day...6 years later and regret it..you have no idea.
I was never raised this way and always hated cheaters or the thought of it...but when I became friends with her outside of the gym and the combination she was very lonely(her husband basically ignored her after marriage other when he wanted sex)and we found each other attractive..well it turned into a bad combination. Neither of us never thought it would happen but it did and I never went in thinking I was going to have sex with her or planned it.
As another poster said these affairs in many cases start out very innocently and just snowball.
My current gf and I met because she lived next door to me and we started going to the gym every day. Both of us just started crushing on each other but both of us were single...I could never cheat on her as I now realize the pain it caused when someone else cheated and love her way too much anyway. Guess something good came out of a bad situation.
So I do know my past history and how things happen and that is why I don't become very good friends with attached females while having a gf.
Finally what are some of you thinking as what constitues a friendship? Saying high at the Lowes store or grocery store and talking for 10 minutes is not what this is all about.
Finally what are some of you thinking as what constitutes a friendship? Saying high at the Lowe's store or grocery store and talking for 10 minutes is not what this is all about.
No, I'm talking about picking up the phone and saying "hey, wanna go get a beer? I could use someone to talk to right about now." There are more men in my life, who have been in my life for a long time, that I can do that with than there are women.