In my own slow and deliberate way, I think I have been moving toward this all my life, (no pun intended) and especially so since the accident that nearly ended my life. I’ve always wanted to donate my eyes to someone who was blind, but in thinking things through, it is better that my body go to the right people.
That being said, I think my DIL’s attitude was a little skewed. She first said “they” didn’t want to “be stuck” with my burial expenses. When they called me to get some personal data, she cautioned me not to “be too honest that the premiums go sky high.”
Those two statements caused a lot of unease in my heart.
But this morning, I feel much better about it. I sent my son an email telling him of my decision, deliberately not sending her one. He needs to hear it from me, not her.
Now I need to get busy and finish that living trust!
As well as informing your son and daughter, I suggest you file a set of your documents with your church administration, or at least have a letter in their files saying, “Contact so-and-so for Monkey Face’s Will, POA, and trust.” The more people who know about your final wishes and dispositions, the better chance there is of everything’s going smoothly and as you intend.
Not to be mean, but is your DIL a highly-functioning case of Asberger’s? Is she an attorney? (Sorry, Scoutmaster, but in some cases....)