Yep, get out at all costs. As soon as possible.
If you have kids get them out of there unless you want them to be monsters too. It's passes from generation to generation.
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I am dealing with a daughter who has this. Every day is a challenge. This had been the longest two years of my life. Three if you count the other things leading up to this.
http://www.bpdcentral.com/bks/swoe.php
Chapter 8:
Developing a Safety Plan
What to do about out-of-control rages, physical abuse, self-mutilation, and
suicide threats
If you are suicidal
Out-of-control children
Chapter 9:
Protecting Children from BPD Behavior
Borderlines as parents
Consequences of BPD behavior on children
Nine practical suggestions for protecting children
Divorce and parental alienation
Yes.
Mantra:
“I am not required to participate in my own abuse.”
You may experience guilt and you may do so for a long time. But it is not your fault and you cannot change these types of behaviors,
Unfortunately, I believe it is genetic, so subsequent generations may manifest the same pathology without even having ever known the ancestor. In each family, there are enabelers and those who finally realize they must leave. The enabelers can be every bit as destructive, to both themselves and others, as the primary BPD sufferer.
The ones who leave may experience PTSD.
Yep, get out at all costs. As soon as possible.
If you have kids get them out of there unless you want them to be monsters too. It's passes from generation to generation”
I wholeheartedly agree. It will be the hardest thing you ever do but do it NOW. BPD is incurable.