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Why do people cry when loved ones die?

You cry because the person is no longer a part of your daily life, just as you might cry because a friend has moved away, even if she's going to marry a really nice man and live in a great place. The present loss *to you* is still real, even if you are absolutely certain it's the best thing for the person who has left you.

Thanks, TC for writing what I could not for the tears I still shed, missing my Sionnar. Nearly 32 years (more than half my life) I spent married to a wonderful human being with whom I was privileged to be one flesh - and many times, one mind and one heart. The loss is deep, painful and very real and not easily overcome with thoughts of rest, peace and the heavenly joy he received through his faith in Christ (not through any works of his own - to that that he would surely testify).

Like you, I wept when I saw Nancy Reagan stroking her beloved Ron's casket - oh, how I know her grief!!!! Compassion is born of suffering - it makes us able to help others bear their burdens for a while, walking alongside as did Simon of Cyrene.

Fan, believe me, there are days I want to go join Sion. I thank God today is not one of them. I am happy for him, but sad for me and for our daughters who were deprived of him for most of their lives, and for the grandchildren who will never know him or call him "Popop!"

Prayers, please: our Jake is missing (the brown tabby cat, for those who don’t keep a record of my family members). He’s stayed out 24 hours before, but never over a second night. It was in the 20s last night, too.

I’ll be sending the Offspring out to look for him (again) later.

I see what you mean LoM, and TC.

“It’s impossible not to feel the loss of a loved one, and the better the person was, the greater the loss.”

We don’t cry for the other person’s situation, we cry for our own loss, because of the magnitude of change in our lives from the loss, relative to the love we feel for the person.

I’m thinking of my Father’s death, but it could apply to any close relationship. It just hurts, and that’s why we cry.