I think I would give my life if it meant my 12 yo daughter could be free from Aspergers. She knows she doesn’t know what to say in social circumstances. She knows she is looked at as weird. She knows she doesn’t fit in. She is fully aware that she isn’t invited to parties and sleepovers.
As a mother, it’s so painful to watch. It’s painful not knowing how to help her.
You have been chosen to be given a very special gift why would you want to return it? It is not your daughter that has the problem it is people who do not understand her or any child who has Autism. My daughter did not socially fit in with girls of her age and I kinda of Thank God for that. When I see the way they act to each other or just in general. Does your daughter have Autistic friends? The more common Autism is, broadens the friendships they can make. My daughter has a great group of friends and although they feel different or they don’t fit in from the “norm” they are very comfortable among themselves. I had many occasions where my daughter would not be invited to go to a party or over a someone’s house, or to a movie. And sometimes the parents of the other children when the worst at letting that happen. But when you think about do you really want your daughter to be in a situation that she is not comfortable with? I have explained to my daughter, God gave you a special gift that other people do not have and you are extremely lucky. Of all the people He could have chose He chose you. That helped make her understand I am different, not weird but lucky. And as parents so are we.
You seem to think she can't be happy or fulfilled unless she has the kind extroverted superficial lifestyle of you expect.