You have been chosen to be given a very special gift why would you want to return it? It is not your daughter that has the problem it is people who do not understand her or any child who has Autism. My daughter did not socially fit in with girls of her age and I kinda of Thank God for that. When I see the way they act to each other or just in general. Does your daughter have Autistic friends? The more common Autism is, broadens the friendships they can make. My daughter has a great group of friends and although they feel different or they don’t fit in from the “norm” they are very comfortable among themselves. I had many occasions where my daughter would not be invited to go to a party or over a someone’s house, or to a movie. And sometimes the parents of the other children when the worst at letting that happen. But when you think about do you really want your daughter to be in a situation that she is not comfortable with? I have explained to my daughter, God gave you a special gift that other people do not have and you are extremely lucky. Of all the people He could have chose He chose you. That helped make her understand I am different, not weird but lucky. And as parents so are we.
Sure, I understand that the Lord chose me to raise her and her unique personality. For years and years, I’ve helped her embrace her uniqueness. And just like everyone has their ups and downs, I’m traveling down the hill at the moment, and I see junior high up ahead with a huge year of transitions and changes fast approaching.
As far as I know, none of my daughter’s peers have Aspergers. I am so frustrated that these “normal” kids never invite her anywhere or to anything. It’s heart-crushing. Of course we have invited kids here many times before, but play dates are usually a one-time deal and not reciprocated.
No, I don’t want to change my daughter, but how is anyone to survive without friends?
This is probably the hardest thing I’ve ever faced in my life. It kills me to see so much pain and loneliness in my daughter’s eyes. I’m glad for you, though, that things seem to be working on your end.