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This evening I had a pity party of my own.

I have chronic — debilitating — back pain I can’t shake: so I have to work 12 to 16 hours a day to do the work I would normally do in 8 to 10.

I have a close friend who told me she will probably die from cancer very soon (which set off a WHOLE NEW set of pity and some self-loathing for feeling bad for feeling bad).

I hang in there for my wife, whose I love more than the depressing feelings of my physical and emotional pain.

I hang on to the important things in my love: the love of my wife, the affection of my friends, the importance of my work, etc.

If you have kids, you have a gift from God that is immeasurable. I assume you have a spouse, whose love is all any of us can ask for.

And God watches over us all — and never gives us more than we can handle, although sometimes more than we can take.

I am so in there with your pity party: sometimes we need people to remind us why we keep on keeping on. I think crying is OK (as long as it is for someone else).

Just look up at your burdens and take pride in your hanging in there. That is what Men do. Unless you are a woman. Because that is also what Women do.

But don’t let people berate you — just don’t neglect your responsibilities (living for your loved ones being #1)