I find some inconsistency: there’s lots of railing about “feminism” from men, and yet the laws and customs they dislike were enacted or accommodated by men. The laws particularly: men vastly outnumber women as legislators and judges.
There’s a very common complaint that men, and particularly husbands/fathers, are negatively portrayed in tv programs and commercials, and yet, men never need to watch these things. I don’t. The only time I see commercial television is in the doctor’s waiting room, and I always have some schoolwork preparation or correspondence with me so I don’t have to look.
You have zeroed in on something I have found to be very true and that is your attitude depends on what and who you surround yourself with. I have work aquaintentences that complain all the time about their spouse. When it starts I either leave or calmly announce that I do not care to hear it and would they please change the subject.
I find that if I don't just the act of listening to their negativity makes me regard my own beloved husband more critically. He does not deserve that so I make sure I do not bring that filth home. Not to mention that it always turns into a game of "topper" as each person sings their song of woe.
Guys who hang around other guys who are moaning and complaining about their wives, girl friends and women in general are going to take it out on the women in their lives. The women will strike back, which will of course confirm that all women are evil and men are poor downtrodden pitiful things. They will take that back to their friends and wallow in their victim-hood status which will keep the cycle going.
This by the way is not confined to guys, gals play the same song just in a different note.
We would all be much happier if we would just stop.
I believe that Paul said it best in Philippians 4:8
Women make up more than 50% of voters. Legislators who want to get elected, and judges who want to be confirmed, tend to be aware of that fact, and that women tend to pay a lot of attention to "women issues" when they vote.