A little reversed in your logic. The South sought to impose at the point of a gun by firing the first shots their will to change the election of Lincoln even before they knew what he might do with regard to slavery. Lincoln pleaded for constructive and non-violent agreement but the South chose to fire the first shots to keep slavery as an open option. Their arrogance got in the way of the reality that in the long run they would not win. They were lucky that for the first several years the North had really lousy generals. When Lincoln finally got past all of the prima donas and political generals to appoint Grant and Sherman as commanders things began to turn around because Lee and his lieutenants finally had to deal with union commanders who would fight and fight to win.
I guess you didn't drink the Kook Aid. Refresing to hear.