He was not the kindest person I ever knew, but since he has gone on to his Reward, I try not to be too ugly in my references.
Still...if his insults were broken bones, I’d be a floppy ol’ bag.
You are (unsurprisingly) gracious, though I know nothing of your situation. I suspect all marriages, even “successful” marriages, bury a varying amount of “difficulties”, but IMHO the benefits (for us 30 years plus and still going) still outweigh the rest.