Kick his sorry ass out and make him get his OWN place for a “screw shack”! Tell his girl friend, “Suzie Rotten Krotch” to hit the bricks, too!
God I HATE parasites!!!
Your house, your rules. Surprise him with a gift of new luggage.
Chalk up one more vote in the “It’s your house, your rules. If he wants to shack up, let him get his own place” column.
I feel strongly that people should not allow unmarried romantic couples to share bedrooms in their houses. Go with your gut and tell your grandson that his girlfriend is welcome to stay the night...in the guest room. That would be your small, but real, contribution to upholding traditional values.
If it makes you uncomfortable I say you tell him no.
What happened to “A Mans Home is His Castle”? Your Home, your rule stands no matter what his age. And Kids no matter what age should learn to respect those rules no matter how old they are.
You are being quite reasonable.
That they have been ‘dating’ for a long period of time means virtually nothing; it certainly is a good idea to have a good solid relationship before getting into the lifelong commitment of marriage... but, what many in today’s society fail to realize is that the sanctity-of-marriage (sexual intercourse, for one) is a good and even practical notion.
From the purely physical standpoint, when you engage in sexual intercourse you ‘inherit’ your sexual partner’s sexual history. This is why the 100+ partner limit is refereed to as the “kiss of death” (more common in the homosexual community, which is itself riskier) where you are pretty much certain to have an STD. Also, this can be evidenced in the STD cases where there is an intermediary who does not get the symptoms but becomes a carrier.
Now for the spiritual standpoint. People are, of course, WEIRD in that they have a spirit; though there is some thought that the physical world is a reflection/shadow of the spiritual, much like a sphere will cast a circular shadow on a wall. The circle is round, but the sphere is “rounder” and has depth that the circle does not. Now, if this is the case then we ought to be concerned about our unseen spirits because they have dimensions not found in the physical world. If God, a spirit, says that sex outside of marriage is not good, then it probably isn’t... and as we see in the physical world reflections of that assertion in STDs then there is quite probably also a spiritual component that we are not as aware of coming into play.
You should knock first.
Yea if it was my house, unless you are married forget it. This is why we are in a morals decay
You have a choice!
Say no. Probably no better motivation to get him to get a job and move out on his own!
He's an adult. Treat him like one. He's not a baby.
You have a problem with his behavior, then say so to him. It is your home, not his. Your wife will back you up, then all the better to speak up.
If he wants to have his girlfriend sleeping with him, he needs to get his own home. Period.
And besides, there is that unwanted pregnancy to think about...you don't want that on your conscience if it happened under your own roof!
Get clear in your own head about it, I’d say. And then lay down the law.
I think fornication (sexual intercourse outside the bonds of matrimony) is a sin, and sin not only effects the sinner but those around him.
I think you have the right as head of the household to say that it ought not to happen in your house.
My personal one is: My house, my values. If your old enough to take on the responsibility of sleeping together and risking a baby, you are old enough to pay for your own place.
I wouldn’t allow it. I don’t know your personal beliefs, but there is “right” and there is “wrong” and those boundaries are spelled out in great detail in the Good Book. There are absolutes and things aren’t “relative” to what you would like to believe...they are just so. If I choose to “believe” that abortion is ok under certain circumstances...my “belief” doesn’t make it “truth.” My belief or lack of moral convictions doesn’t nullify the truth. Murder is murder, whether it’s the murder of a human being in development in the womb, or a 32-year old man/woman.
The same is true with the laws handed down from God through Jesus Christ and his Apostles and subsequently His Disciples. Intimate relations between unmarried persons, however “committed” to each other, is an abomination. That is one of the “sins of the flesh” for which we can become eternally damned if we do not repent.
I know, sounds extreme, and it is in this day and age - but that doesn’t negate its truth.
So, I wouldn’t allow it, however upset, verbally abusive, or estranged they may become because of it. You, as a parent, must lead by example and by conviction. Otherwise, you have failed your duty as a father with whom God has placed his charges for safekeeping.
Just my two cents.
Just make it very clear you too have rights, and if you wish to walk around the house wearing only thongs, so be it.
Your house, your rules. If he wants to play sleepover, he can get his own place.
My home was 'out of bounds' for that game.
Call me old fashioned, but....
Nam Vet
Good luck with that. Went through the same myself. Bottom line in dealing with my boy: Man enough to engage in that activity? Man enough to buy your own condoms, get a “big boy” bed, and your own place to use them. Also just two more words that opened his eyes real wide: “Child support.” Not coming out of my wallet, kid.