Not a John Wayne fan I take it?...PEE Wee Herman more your bag?
But I am also a grown-up who realizes that Wayne the man fell far short of the heroes he played on screen at the most crucial time in our history. There were a lot of better established, older Hollywood actors who threw their careers to the wind (read about Robert Montegomery some time) and laid their lives on the line for the flag that you want to wrap around Wayne. He stayed home.
That fact can't be changed, it can't be excused and for me it can't be forgiven.
The guy was an icon, no doubt about that. But he was iconic for the heroic roles he played not the life he led.