Posted on 05/27/2009 2:23:38 PM PDT by Karma Police
Sorry for the vanity, but I'm in serious need of some freeper advice here. I think I'm falling in love with a liberal. She's beautiful and has a big heart, but we have conflicting political ideologies. Does anyone have any tips for being in a relationship like that? Thanks FRiends...
hmmm, sure it isn’t lust?
Try sitting on a wooden stool and nailing your testicles to the seat. It doesn’t hurt any more than divorce and it’s a lot cheaper.
Date. See what unfolds. Like anything just be honest with yourself, with her, and try to be present for the experience. As much as you can with all the hormones and love endorphins etc surging through your brain and body. We do not often (well most don't lol) fall in love everyday. Enjoy it.
The questions at this time? Normal. They will answer themselves over time if you do not avoid them and try to act as though they don't exist. Hopefully you both understand you can't and should not expect the other to change. You both may try to delude yourselves and skim over this part, but it is just that delusion. Enjoy life. It is short.
Don’t know how serious you are about her. But keep this in mind...marriage is more about shared values than shared interests.
LOL. This completely cracked me up.
I spent most of my young adult life dating liberal men. OUCH! When I first laid eyes on my conservative man (now husband), I knew. Truth is conservative men are better in every way in my opinion. I can see why she would be attracted to him. Liberal men. EWWW! LOL.
Instead of a bag over her head, use duct tape over her mouth
I have found this to be true in our marriage as well. We sink up both religiously and politically and we married late compared to others. Marriage is tough enough at times without those shared foundations that can really bring each other back together in times of distress or hardship that are inevitable.
I don’t believe either one of the Carvilles. They’re just Beltway insiders “playing the game”.
Amen to that. You can't trust them with anything because they have no core values.
Is this lady generous with her own money, or will she be generous with yours? Will her bleeding heart place demands on your time and money?
My thoughts exactly. It's easy to have a 'big heart' when it's not your money and when you refuse to get the kinds of jobs that pay decently because you don't want to be 'the man.' And how are you going to raise children? As US-hating libs? What's she going to do when you want to fly the flag on Memorial Day? Will she want to spit on soldiers?
I say leave her. Now.
About 10 years ago I dated a beautiful young immigrant from Brazil. I admired her spunk, intelligence, and ambition.We seemed like minded. I was considering asking her to marry me when, after her U.S. citizenship ceremony, she registered to vote and declared herself a Democrat. I was very disappointed with her, and I broke up with her soon afterwards. I never told her how disappointed I was that she declared as a Democrat. Maybe I should have. I thought that after all the time we spent talking about politics that I had influenced her to at least go Independent, but I was wrong.
I kept in touch with her. Last year she spent weeks volunteering for the Obama campaign.She peppered me and her other friends with Obama donation email requests. In January she excitedly attended the inauguration and sent pictures to me and everyone else in her email address book.Recently she announced that she plans to work on the campaign of the Democrat candidate for mayor of her town. His platform emphasizes tolerance for illegal immigrants and he supports amnesty for them.I feel as if she has joined a cult.
Reading your post and considering your question, I cannot help but consider how smart I was to walk away from that relationship, no matter how difficult it was at the time.
I live in New York City, and it is practically impossible to find women who are not Democrats. I will date them, but there is no way in hell I would marry one because I could not fully respect her or God forbid have children with her, and I know that over time I would come to resent her.
Take my advice and do not marry this woman unless she demonstrates the respect for personal freedom and individual responsibility that comes with being a conservative. In the long run I think you will be happy that you called it quits.
And now, you’re a moderate so you both shouldn’t have any trouble.
Excellent questions and A LOT of wisdom. May the OP take heed. Thanks for the post.
That would require a picture...
You say her heart is big--but you don't say if she actually gives of her time, talent, and treasure to help others...or if she just talks about the government filling that role.
Since liberalism is a mental disorder, I suggest you fast forward 25 years into the future (when she is less likely to be as gorgeous as she is today) and consider her mental health--and the mental health of your children.
Starting now, sit across the table from her every night for dinner without saying a word. Go ahead, just try it for a few nights. Then imagine every night of your life spending dinner with someone you cannot talk to.
I am a “don't ask, don't tell” conservative. In other words, I really didn't have a direction until Clinton did that don't ask don't tell thing. That was a wake up call for me. The military was my line in the sand. Then Rush came along...
Obviously it took more than that for my marriage to fall apart such as the daily captious verbal abuse and micro-controlling to the point where he took the starter out of my car so I couldn't go anywhere.
But the worst part was the silent treatment because I listened to Rush and learned new things every day that I wanted to share and my husband is a liberal, then, now, and it gets worse every day.
I know it hurts to walk away, but the only pain worse than that is the pain you will be in years hence when you finally realize this isn't going to work. Trust me, that pain is far worse, especially if there are children involved.
Ugh, I know. It can get ugly. I have had it out with my family members on abortion, gun control, Obama, gay marriage, etc. My brother and I deleted each other from FB so we could continue to love and respect each other. My conservative postings were ticking him off so much we could hardly speak. I am the lone conservative left in this generation of my family. Everyone else are left wingers. Thankfully my husband, mom and in-laws are conservative or I’d have no one left to talk to...
Liberal chicks are 100% better in bed than conservative chicks...
Uh, I think my husband of 25 years would beg to differ!
What does your wife think?
Climb to the top of a very tall building, or a very high bridge.
Jump.
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